Rights of birth father

Originally Posted By Greg FranklinThanks for your inquiry. Generally speaking, the consent of the childs biological father is required, or the court may waive the requirement if there is ample evidence of abandonment or other factors, like non-payment of child support. Of course, if he wants to be the child's full-time custodial parent (and not just block the adoption), he has the same parental rights as you do.Many birth fathers come around to the idea of adoption, particularly as a way to avoid their child support obligation.I wish you the very best as you work through this difficult period. I strongly advise you to speak with a birth mother support group or an adoption attorney or agency as soon as possible to get accurate information on your rights and options.Adoption laws vary from state to state, however, and I cannot advise you on the legalities of your situation (I do not know where you are located). I recommend that you speak with an attorney in your state who is familiar with adoption-related issues. If you are located in Western New York, I'd be happy to speak with you about the adoption, or you might be able to find an experienced attorney, who is a member of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, at [url="http://www.adoptionattorneys.org"]http://www.adoptionattorneys.org[/url], or I would be happy to give you a couple of recommendations. Please let me know if you have any questions and if I may be of any assistance. Greg FranklinPlease note that this and subsequent communication does not establish an attorney-client relationship between the parties to this message. Any comments or recommendations made in this communication are of a general nature, are based upon the limited information provided to the addressee, and are not to be construed as legal advice.

If it's not too late, have an abortion. If this is against your religion, pre-marital sex is probably forbidden as well. I am a 30-year-old adoptee and life has been very difficult for me, even though the family who raised me is wonderful. They have their problems (as any family does), and this plus the feeling of abandonment, alienation, confusion and insecurity many adoptees feel is something I would like to spare another person. The world is over-populated as it is. You can save a life by not contributing to this. I have been reunied with my birth mother and she has told me that giving me up haunted her until I contacted her. And now, she is plagued with regret that she didn't keep me. She lived for years with such guilt and shame, and, if possible, I would like to spare you this torment. Terminating your pregnancy is not murder. If you do not want this child, why have it? You did not intend to get pregnant and you do not have to be pregnant . How would you feel if you had been unwanted, then adopted by people who probably wish they could have had their own biological children. Your baby would be their second choice and, even though they would love him/her very much, there will be sadness and other pain surrounding the family. I do not think you need the father's permission to abort. I do not mean to offend you, but, morally, I think it is better for you to end what is not yet a human life. I believe that God would agree, and if you are afraid of being judged by others, tell them you had a miscarriage. If you do decide to have this baby and give him/her up, make your information available by registering with the state and other reunion organizations so that the child can contact you when he/she is 18. It's not fair to bring a life into this world and take no responsibility for it.

Samanatha, I don't know if you are even still looking here, but, please don't listen to the last poster about aborting your baby. You didn't write in asking for advise on abortion, you were asking about a legal issue with the birthfather. I'm sorry that the adoptee who wrote is bitter, but I honestly don't think that she would rather be dead than alive. Life is what you make of it. We are all dealt a different hand and how we deal with it makes all the difference in the quality of life we have here. God DOES care if a baby is killed just for the convenience of the parents. No...you didn't ask to become pregnant, but now that you are, you are doing the mature, loving and responsible thing. Trying to make sure your child is given the chance to live. Let this child have the choices that the last poster had in life. I'm sure that he/she will inherite your strong heart and determination and appreciation for life, and will live to thank you for choosing to let him/her live. There are more adoptees who are living a happy, fulfilled life today, and are contributing wonderful things to others, than those who are bitter and wasting their life feeling cheated and bitter. Sitting back and brooding and feeling sorry for ones self doesn't make things better, it only robs you of your joy. There are lots of people who aren't adopted who have rotten childhoods, are abused, neglected, and suffer tremendously, and still manage to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and CHOOSE to live a life full of happiness. You take care, and keep doing what is right for your soul and your baby's future here on earth. If you need to talk, you can email or pm me. God Bless you! Craftie

Well, I learned I was a father when My daughter's mother put her up for adoption to some of her relatives. She will be 2 on Dec. 15th. I was so excited! Now I obviously would never ever even consider giving her away to anyone. Now however it has turned into a custody battle because the mother was forced by cps (child protective services) to sign her rights away and they are trying to get her. It is such a battle but All I want to say is She is my air, my breath, my everything now and I would do anything for her. I had to go through 2 attorneys (the first one sucked so I had to replace him) and prove paternity before I was ever allowed to see her ( I was allowed to see her for 1 hr.). It is just so crazy. I will continue the good fight until my daughter is safe in her daddy's arms. I am in Dallas Texas. If anyone out there has information that can be used to help me and my daughter, PLEASE HELP! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I go to court on Dec. 19th. Yes, 4 days after she turns 2. So if you can every one who reads this remember us in your prayers.