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I must tell you my heart goes out to you. I am a birth mother as well as an adoptee myself. I empathize your pain.
I do want to make one devils advocate point. You had 9 months to make your decision, and have it not affect the stability of the infant child. Why change your mind after and make your childs life unstable it's first year.
Please forgive me... I am asking this question only to get you thinking of the responses you will have to have prepared when you see this issue through court. I lost my battle....I pray you don't lose yours.
Hang in there.
By the way.....There is a certain number of months during witch a b-mother can change her mind. And unless placing the child with it's natural parents would prove to be harmful to the child physically mentally or emotionally....they have no legal grounds not to return your child to you.
God Bless....
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You can go to the probate court and petition for an appeal to overturn your relinquishment without a lawyer! I believe you have approx 60 days in which to do so. If you want your child, go and fight with all you have! I have a friend who has many legal connections if you need more information. Please email me in private and I will connect you with her. Do not let others deter you or make you feel guilty. You have a perfect and natural right to want your child, you are his mother!
I fought for my son extorted from me both emotionally and legally and the experience is rough! Legal stall tactics will be used and the wait will seem endless. If you can't afford an attorney, the court will appoint you one. And I suggest you check him or her out thoroughly to make certain there is no bias such as he or she being an adoptive parent. That was my mistake. I finally gave up after a two year battle when it was clear that my child would be adversly and permanently effected if I removed him from his adoptive home.
There is more I would like to share but I prefer to do so in private. Contact me and give me your email address...I think we can help you.
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"I fought for my son extorted from me both emotionally and legally and the experience is rough! Legal stall tactics will be used and the wait will seem endless. If you can't afford an attorney, the court will appoint you one." ~SoulWhisper
I concur 100% with this statement. To my knowledge this is VERY common practice in the State I live in. DO NOT use a court appointed lawyer. The hearing will be postponed repeatedly. By the time the case gets to court, your child will be months if not years old... and there's no way any judge in their right mind will return your child to you at that point. It simply would not be in the child's best interest.
You must take action NOW, if you are going to have any chance of righting this wrong. I do believe what you say. Many dishonest practices were employed by my adoption agency as well, when I was an ignorant 16-year-old birthmother. The difference between you and me is that, in my case, the lies and trickery were unnecessary. I chose adoption for my child, and I meant it. I would not have changed my mind even if they'd dealt straight with me. I would not have reclaimed my child, even if I'd known I had the right to do so. But, the fact is they did not deal straight with me, and so it doesn't take a huge leap of faith for me to believe that YOUR agency did not deal straight with YOU, either.
I think you should fight for your rights, and reclaim your child. You have to hurry. If I were in your position, I would:
1. Contact the media... all the media you can think of. Be clear-headed, concise, and very persistent. MAKE your local news affiliate and daily paper pick up the story. Make sure they realize that this is NEWS.
2. Get your own (not court-appointed) attorney. Get the money together any way you can, and hire one. Or, see if you can find someone to take the case pro bono (unlikely, but possible). Or retain a personal injury lawyer who works on contingency, and sue the agency.
The important thing is to hurry, hurry, hurry. Every day your child spends in the custody of others lessens your chances of ever legally reclaiming him.
Best wishes to you.
~ Sharon