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A very good friend of mine, also a birthmother, has been searching. She thinks she is real close to finding her son.
It hasn't been an easy search. She feels there is a good chance that her son does not know he is adopted. If this is true, and she does make contact, how does a birthmother go about telling her birthson that he is adopted?
If anyone can help, it would mean the world to her. She wants to be prepared for anything.
PLEASE HELP
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If it's any consolation, I've read many posts by adult adoptees on this forum who found out late in life that they were adopted... and it seems that many of them already suspected or knew it on some level. I don't think it usually comes as a total shock. Intuitively, people seem to sense it, or at least sense that SOMETHING is amiss. So, if it turns out that your friend's son doesn't know that he's adopted, and she has to tell him, I doubt she'll be telling him anything he doesn't already know, but rather confirming something he's already aware of on a subconscious level.
My only advice would be, as with any search, to proceed with caution. Haste results in stepped-on toes and sabotaged reunions. Be careful, tactful and discreet. Best of luck to you and your friend.
Sincerely, ~shar
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