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Please someone help me. I have an unusual situation and i need some answeres if anyone has them. I live in Michigan, and i have a friend who is pregnant for the third time and she is only 20 yrs old. She wants me and my husband to adopt her unborn child. Now heres the hard part, her boyfreind doesnt want her to adopt the baby out, he wants her to get an abortion. He told her if she adopted the baby out he would fight for cusody. He doesnt have a home, he has two other kids he doesnt take care of (money or time wise). She still wants to give us her baby but she wants to get around him getting custody. Me and my hubby have been married 5 years, both over 25 yrs of age, and make a good living. She knows this and wants this to happen. She said she is trapped because of this pregnancy and if he wont allow her to give us the baby she will get an abortion. Someone give me some advise please.
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She said she is trapped because of this pregnancy and if he wont allow her to give us the kid she will get an abortion.
I think she has to deal with this.. Not you..
The law is very clear.. The father of the child has a right to keep the child.. A lawyer or the court will decide whether he is capable.. He may go back home and his parents may want to help with the baby.. Who knows..
I have corresponded with a woman who's son got a girl pregnant.. She loves the little girl who the son kept..
When I relinquished the potential adoptive parents had nothing to do with the pregnant woman/girl.. She had to sort her life..
I had to sort my own life..
IMO your best way through this is to offer all the support you can..
Jackie
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Have either of them gotten any counseling? Are you in the adoption process at all- like have you completed a homestudy or any of those things? In the state of Michigan, even in an identified adoption, you need to have a homestudy done.
I would advise her to get some counseling before making any decisions she might later regret. The father does have rights in terms of custody- mother is primary, followed by father when they are not married. So he does have to agree to the adoption or be proven not to have taken care of her during the pregnancy or support her by the court before they will terminate his rights.
pm me if you have any other questions or want advice about agencies to use. Good luck!
Erin