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Hello- We have adopted twice from the Philippines, and also have 2 bio kids, and we are in the process of adopting again. I can tell you of our personal experiences, which may be helpful. One of our children is also from an incestual situation, but was also an older child adoption, at 3-1/2 years old. We had genetic testing done , as we were wondering also if there would be any effects due to this. The tests showed nothing significant. They suggested testing again in 5 years if there was still concerns. Our child is now here almost 5 years and is currently in an age approprate class in school and continues to recieve some learning assistance and help for E.S.L. But the school and our Doctor feel this is more due to his lack of english and poor language skills while he was in the Philippines. He is a very sweet and loving child, but is impulsive, and sometimes has trouble concentrating,( but so did our first Bio child, who is now 21.) There is no easy way to know how a child from this type of background will be effected. Regarding refusing a proposal, our understanding is if you do refuse, your file is put back until a another appropriate match can be made. If the home who matched you the first time has another child that better fits your criteria they may try to match you again. There really is no way to tell how long this may take. Hope this helps, good luck