Confidentiality Question

I have a question for those that are any more experienced than me! Which is probably about everyone here. :) I don't know how confidentiality differs from state to state, but the law reads in IA that I cannot share any identifying information about any foster child (other than to dr's/lawyers/DHS etc) to anyone without consent of the guardian - who would normally be the parents, I assume. The example given specifically says I cannot tell my friends or extended family even the child's name. Now, exception is given if I obtain the information FROM the foster child themselves. So, that would be okay, except that an infant can hardly tell you their name. And I have a 2 mth old. They can't tell you anything. This seems silly and ridiculous. I certainly don't want to get parents to sign a piece of paper stating that I can introduce the child. So, do I ignore their rule that is clearly defined in all the paper I am getting by introducing the child by their name. Also I am getting other conflicting information. I read that I cannot give ANY medical care, routine or otherwise, without consent from parents. Not the caseworker. But, when I try to get this consent, the caseworker seems more than happy to authorize treatment and I feel like it would be silly to fight it. Is this normal? If it is normal to ignore the rules and use common sense, fine. I would much prefer to work that way, but I suppose I am the one with my tushie on the line, if something ever goes wrong. :( Also, I hate to question the social workers on their own rules. So far, I have a good working relationship with them. I think I will just tick them off if I insist they play by the rules. I want to do what is best for my FC, but I don't want to be in trouble by flaunting the rules either. I suppose I should get used to stuff like this, but I am one of those Type A rule followers......UGH!:rolleyes: