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We had our home inspection last week and are now just waiting for the final licensing paperwork to go through. We planned to license for 1 child age 0 to 3, since we have a 3 yr old and that is who will be sharing a room. I had read a posting a while ago about a worker looking around a bedroom and saying, "looks like another bed could fit in here" I didn't think that was very common, but that is what happened to us. The worker said he was going to license us for 2 toddlers and when I voiced my concern about space, he said "oh there is plenty of room in there". I realize that we can say no when a call for placement comes in, but I don't think I would be able to refuse a little one. My worry is that I work 3 twelve hour days a week and on my work days, my husband is home, can you all tell me how well husbands have adjusted or are adjusting to taking care of fkids. How can I make it easier for him?
Thanks for lending an ear. I am both scared and excited at the same time.
Meema
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My husband is the stay at home parent. He does a better job than I would do. He has more patience than I do. Just remember he may do things different that you. AND you have to be okay with that. S hair is not pretty when I come home and C may have taken nap later that I think. BUT they had a great time with Mr B. He sometimes wants alone time when I get home, but so would I. What does husband think? I would suggest you start with one and then take another if that goes well, but I have found siblings are normally easier then just getting one. the youngest we have had is 3. Good luck. Have you bought the other bed? this could be your excuse if they call for 2 kids.
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I haven't bought another bed yet. The one I bought can be changed from crib to toddler bed. If I get another one, I will probably just get a toddler bed. My husband does well with our 3 yr old. We work opposite schedules so that one of us is home all the time. I think his biggest concern is keeping track of everybody, his dad lives out of town and they meet together once a week and go to sportsy stores or gun shows. The teenagers are more than willing to help and during the summer can go along with them.
Suberb question posed, Meema. I too, am alot like you, almost licensed and asking for closely related ages. I would be interested in how Dad's adjust to fostering. Sometimes, I think my husband is just, "going along with the ride." and then he boasts to a complete stranger that we are doing fostering. Go figure!?! Once again, I will be anxious to see the responses from other foster parents.
My husband is the stay at home Dad! 2 times that I was going to turn placements down, he was the one saying lets do it. If not everyone is up for it, it makes it hard. My son was not sure that he wanted to continue after our first 2 FDs went home. I first couple of weeks of the next long term placement was rough for him.
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