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We should be getting our license anytime, I called the SW today to ask how would I know when we are actually licensed and to let her know that we were going to be out of state the first part of August. While we were talking, she said there would be a 12 mth old little boy that they are going to have to find placement for. He was born either addicted to meth or cocaine and went into FC at 5 or 8 mths (she wasn't sure). He is in his 2nd foster home right now and the family is going to quit FC after 20 years. The little boy was DD when he went into care, but she said is now almost caught up. The SW said he is a "screamer", but is getting better. If we were chosen for this little guy (our first placement), I am not sure of the best way to help him. Please give me any advice or places to get info. I have a 3 yr old bio boy. If you made it through my long winded post, thank you. Also, I am scared to death, is that normal?
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First of all i want to say yes it is normal for you to be scared.
Second, how honest do you think your caseworker is? Our current fs who is actually going to be our a.s. is three years old. he was 17 months when we got him, we were told he has tantrums and is getting better at dealing with it. Tantrums was not the word for what he was going through. He was also dd and drug addicted at birth from cocaine and marjauana and they also feel he was alcohol exposed, however have not proven that yet. There screaming can go on and on for hours on end. They have a hard time dealing with change and loud noises and bright lights. It can and will get better. We thought for sure our fs would drive us insane however he is the love and joy of our life and today at 3 you would never know by looking at him that he was exposed at birth. However if you watch him for a while you can tell he is different from other 3 year olds. i would say go for it. The rewards from watching them grow and understand to deal with there "screaming" is so great. I wouldn't change it for the world.
Hope i didn't scare you off.
Jody
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Thanks for the reply. What did you do to help him get through all that? He may be placed before we return from our trip, so we may not even get him, but I want to be as prepared as I can just in case.
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Have him evaluated by early steps, early intervention services. Find an awesome peditritian willing to help you in any way possible. Get as much information as you can get from the other foster parents. Like routines and favorites, have they determined any triggers for the screaming and if so what and try to avoid them. Good luck
Jody
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See if you can talk with the present Foster Mom. It is a little scary that someone that has been in this for 20 years is quitting in the middle of a placement. If something has not changed in their personal life, I would worry that this child has more issues that they are telling you.
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Well I recieved a call from H&W just now, they needed placement for a 4 year old boy. I told her I didn't know that our license had been finalized, but apparently it is. We had to decline the placement because of our trip next week. It will be interesting to see what happens when we get back, if we get a call right away. I have waited months for this and now I hope the right thing happens.
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