Kids Leaving

January 30, 2006

So, have you ever asked for kids to be moved from your home? If so, why? How often have you asked for this? How often have you had matches made in a place other than Heaven?

I am asking because we have fostered so many older kids that when the behaviors get bad, I just can't take it anymore and ask them to be moved. The avg length of stay is about 1 year. BUT>>>>when the kids come into my home workers always say this will be 2 or 3 weeks, maybe a month.................but we know how it really goes.

Don't get me wrong, I really like being a foster parent but think I am more suited for 0-90 days of care unless the child is a good adoptive match for our home. :)

And........why does the SW get upset with you when you ask the child to be moved becasue of behavior (lying, stealing, sneaking out and being gone for a couple days, etc....) when the SW told you originally the child would be there for a couple weeks and has now been at your home for many months? :confused:

brl

January 31, 2006

I have asked to have a couple removed.

I know what we as a family can handle and what we cannot handle.

It hurts to have to do it, but sometimes it has to be done.

C.W. I think get mad b/c they then have to find another placement, which means more stress and work on their already stressful and busy schedule.

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Lorraine123

January 31, 2006

The workers get angry because everytime a child moves to another home, The chance for that child to attach to a family is greatly decreased and it causes huge issues for the child. I don't mean that as a criticism, just a fact. With each move a child makes, their issues multiply and the chance for them to find a forever home goes way down.

hotspice58

January 31, 2006

I had my teenager be put in a home for a diagnostic evaluation. He wasn't bad but he had attachment disorders (which I didn't discover until he was gone). I would do young kids as I'm single, commute to work and have my mom help. She doesn't do well with older kidsl.

momof2redheads

January 31, 2006

If you feel that you are better suited for short term care why not check out respite? There are other foster parents in need of some "time off" you could be doing less care and helping all concerned.

The reason CW get upset is because you were picked out of other familes to help this foster child and if the match wasn't good the child gets moved to yet another home. I currently have a fd that just got in the foster care system this summer and has already been in 5 foster homes. This last one was hard for her because she felt safe there and the foster parents sent her away yet agian. I have seen the other side of having a child pulled from your house. The attachment problems are hard for the child to take.

Kate1129

February 1, 2006

I'd check into emergancy placements and respite. Those are short term and sound like it would suit you better.

Sure is tough huh!