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I have a current placement(infant) who is going to her GM's at the end of the month. This weekend will have been her second visit. 1st time was two days, second is 4, but she's bringing her back early. I'm glad family is able to step up, but for some reason I just have a feeling GM is gonna change her mind before the transfer.
It's a small world so I won't give specifics, but she's mid 60's,overwhelmed with her current life situation, and has a hard time comprehending things. Age isn't a factor as long as your memory is sharp and you are in somewhat decent health. I've shared some things that she's either said, done, or suggested to friends(foster friends) and they have said they don't think she'll be able to handle it. I am not badmouthing her, just making some observations. Her heart's in the right place, but it's obvious that she feels obligated. We don't plan on adopting her so this isn't coming out of a place of selfishness.
Due to personal matters we would only be able to keep her for another two months, so hopefully if GM changes her mind, we could get her to an adoptive home fairly quickly. We definitely don't want it to look like a disruption.
Wow, I didn't think this would be so long. So anyone have experience with family changing thie mind once they found out it was more than they could chew?
Yes, a family member was going to take our then-4 week old FS and his 18 month old brother. SW went and looked at her house and said it was really nice. Then the family member just said she thought about it and she really doesn't want to do that right now. :confused:
The ridiculous thing is 5 days later she wrote on her facebook how much she wants to have a baby and how sad she is that she can't have one. Someone told her she should adopt or foster. Yes, she said this when she has a newborn relative in foster care. :rolleyes:
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texaslady22
The ridiculous thing is 5 days later she wrote on her facebook how much she wants to have a baby and how sad she is that she can't have one. Someone told her she should adopt or foster. Yes, she said this when she has a newborn relative in foster care. :rolleyes:
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WoW!! REALLY!?!?! SMH. I am happy for you, if you were wanting to keep the baby, but it sure is sad that a relative could turn their back just like that.
Actually it's pathetic!!!! Since they apparently are in the position to raise one. Blesssings to you!
Yes. Without giving too many details, we had a set of divorced grandparents change their minds back and forth a few times on a sib set. And these were grandparents in their early 40's and a completely normal family and we were not an adoptive resource. Because we became friends with them, I can tell you that it was a really difficult decision for them trying to decide between being parents again or getting to be normal grandparents.
Yes, after two weekend visits the relative said she couldn't parent these children, which is what everyone else was wondering.
I know it must have been toe hardest thing she did, but it wouldn't have been a good idea and I'm glad she recognized it before placement.
Yes, after two weekend visits the relative said she couldn't parent these children, which is what everyone else was wondering.
I know it must have been toe hardest thing she did, but it wouldn't have been a good idea and I'm glad she recognized it before placement.
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minehistheirs
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WoW!! REALLY!?!?! SMH. I am happy for you, if you were wanting to keep the baby, but it sure is sad that a relative could turn their back just like that.
Actually it's pathetic!!!! Since they apparently are in the position to raise one. Blesssings to you!
Easy now, lol
not everyone is cut out to do kinship care..it's a totally different ballgame then just foster.
Wanting a baby, is one thing, but knowing, that your whole family might get involved, and not necessarily in a good way, is a thought process, and maybe that's why this family decided against kinship. Jmo
Yes. Kinship of my dd had everything approved, completed icpc, both states, and then pulled out. THANK GOD! Our dd was at the time 8 months old, and the thought of losing her to somebody, who has never even met her, was devastating.