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:eek: As an adoptee, could you please elaborate!? Adoption to slavery? do you know what slavery really is? That is very strong statement to make. Do you not have freedom? did someone buy you? Are you denied basic human rights, needs, dignities? Are you branded, and in chains?What exactly do you mean?
Dear Plants,
You sound very dismayed and angry. Your message was very brief and I dont know your circunstances but it sounds to me like you're very hurt and maybe don't know any details about your adoption. Please write me back or e-mail me. I am an adoptee also. I know no details and was lied to my whole life by my aparents. And I know that having your adoption records sealed is so very awful and a basic disgrace and an inhumane way to deal with a very serious societal, emotional, political, spiritual injustice--in that way I suppose it could be compared to slavery! Take care and you're not alone in your anger and feelings of injustice!
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Those are rather extreme statements to make, particularly without a detailed explanation.I was adopted and I haven't the foggiest idea what you're talking about. I am very different from my parents, we often disagree. Nonetheless I love them very much. If you are a young person, do stop to consider the simple fact that many people are at odds with their parents when they are young. You MUST know people who are very different from their parents and feel they can't related although their family was not formed by adoption.
How by any stretch of the imagination can you compare adoption with slavery? I understand you have pain and hurt in your life but to blame that on the fact that some strangers took you into their homes gave you food shelter and love is beyond my comprehension. Perhaps you did not have perfect parents or the greatest childhood,NEWSFLASH!!! Kids who were not adopted have those same experiences. Life is not perfect and we are owed nothing! You can only work with what you are dealt and do your best. People who are not adopted have no advantages over me, we simply had a different start to our lives, different not better or worse
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People who are not adopted have no advantages over me, we simply had a different start to our lives, different not better or worse
i am not saying that it is slavery to be adopted but in my case it was .my adoptive parents abused me and they treated me like a slave htey were mean to me and i had to do all theer chores while they sat Edited for Content and do nothing my adoptive mother would constanlty hit me and beat me and then turn around and tell her friends how wonderful people they were to adopt a child
[FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I can understand your frustrations in not being allowed your information. It seems that the adopted are only people in today's society that are denied, by laws, to have information about THEMSELVES. It is hard to think that some clerk or judge can look at OUR information, but we can not. When I paid $85 dollars to petition the court to get my NON ID..I stated something about getting my NON ID, and the clerk looked at me and said, "what is it with you people and NON ID? There is no such thing!" So I informed her that many counties give adoptees NON ID. At that she looked at me and with GREAT attitude said, "WELL, our judge takes it VERY seriously the promise of confidentiality given to THOSE WOMEN who GAVE UP babies, from PEOPLE LIKE YOU!!!!" PEOPLE LIKE ME??!?!?! I am that baby!!!!! I really didn't know if I should have hit her or started crying, so I just asked, "And this judge, is he an elected official?" Which she smugly answered YES! So I looked at her and said, Not Anymore!!! So yes, I do understand how if feels to not be given the same rights as Non Adopted people. And while I don't see adoption like slavery, I understand how you may have felt like a slave, all your rights of knowing who you are being stripped away. And I feel for you, having been adopted into a home where you weren't loved and cherished like EVERY child (adopted or not) deserves. However, we need to remember that adoption is not the enemy. Adoption is actually a very beautiful thing. There will always be children in need of homes, so thank God for those who open theirs! However, that does not mean that the adoptee should be made to feel "resuced" or that they "owe" anyone anything. It also doesn't mean that adoptees shouldn't have THEIR information. Adoption is different, and there are different circumstances around adoption, but that doesn't mean that the adopted child should not have axcess to the same information others have!
Just my thoughts... :fish: [/FONT]
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