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I am trying to find a lawyer to take my case who can WIN it for me.....here's a little background.My son is 7 years old. My sons bf hasn't seen him for 5 years (next month). My husband has been around since my son was about 15 months old. He calls my husband daddy, but he still remember is bf and calls him his father. I still show him pictures and leave communication open to talk about him. I don't want my son to ever think I've tried to keep him from his father. He remembers going over there, and he remembers things he did while he was over there (he was only 2!!!!). He loves his father very much, but he loves daddy more. He knows daddy (my husband) is always there for him. BF contacted me 2 summers ago at my parents house and first thing he said was "what's Tonys social security number?". I said excuse me, you're going to call me after 3 years of no contact and ask me that. He said child support is hounding him about getting our son under his health insurance. Needless to say I didn't give it to him. I ask where he's been. He said, oh, i thought you moved to florida!!!! But yet, he calls me at my moms house?? He knew how to get a hold of me then! He does pay child support on a regular basis, but only because it comes out of his check. He knows he can contact my parents to find out where i'm living (which is only 7 doors down from my parents!). I am listed in the phone book, the internet. I'm not hard to find! I don't know where he is living now, nor do I have any way to get a hold of him or find him. My husband really wants to adopt my son. I really want him to adopt him too. Anyone know the chances, based on what i've said. I did ask bf if he would sign him over during our social security conversation, and he said "over my dead body!" He's still very immature and much older then me. He don't care about our son, he just cares about hurting me, and himself. He's stubborn. I know if he does show up to contest, he would say I've keep our son from him, yadayadayada, but that's not at all the truth. I actually tried calling him for a couple months after he stopped coming around telling him his son was asking about him and wanted to know if he wanted to pick him up for a few hours. Most of the time he would say no. The other few times he would say yes, and then never show up. HELP!!!!!!!
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Okay I'm from ohio and have a couple of family members with very similar stories and your husband does not stand a chance of adopting your son. In fact if you push it much your sons birthfather will probably get visitation etc... I would leave it alone because Ohio is very unwilling to terminate birthfather rights. My cousin had a daughter whose father had not seen nor contacted her in six years. Her stepfather started the adoption proceedings in Findlay with a great attorney and when they posted the notice in the paper that she was going to be adopted birthdad came forward and said no. He has since had almost nothing to do with daughter but courts gave him visitation rights and told him to catch up on his child support, which he has not done. my best friend has a daughter who's bf had not contacted her since she was four months old, she is twelve now. Her stepfather wanted to adopt her. When bf was notified about this he denied signing over his rights, started having court enforced visitation, prevented the family from moving out of state. It isn't like he didn't know where to find his daughter, they had lived in the same town in teh same house the whole time, he just didn't care until his rights were in question. don't push it is my advice.
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