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I am a regular reader here and find the advice incredibly useful. I myself am needing some guidance now.
My question is about kinship placements. We have had a (close) relative come out of the woodwork and she wants our foster children. Luckily she is in-state so there is no worry of ICPC delays. When do foster parents usually intervene to fight a move to kinship? These children have been in care for a year, and she is just now coming forward because it looks like TPR is actually going to happen. At what point is it too late to intervene? We'd like to wait until the home study is complete to see if DFPS even passes her, but I don't want to wait too long and end up having them moved. We'd hate to spend thousands of dollars intervening only to find out she doesn't pass her home study.
Please help!
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No one can tell you when it's the right time. All I can tell you is we experienced this with our now adopted son and we decided to intervene as soon as we as foster parents, had legal standing (12 months in our care). We decided that the risk of spending money (we didn't have) was less than the risk of losing our son. The decision ended up in our favor but even if it hadn't....we had told each other that we were going to try everything possible so we would have no regrets....that mattered. Yes we spent a lot and owe a lot, but it's nothing compared to knowing that he's ours forever. Good Luck.
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I think it depends on your risk tolerance level. some could say wait to see if DFPS passes this person first. You could always start the talks with a lawyer so they are up to speed on your case and then pull the trigger if needed. So many different ways you could go, but you just have to figure out what is going to make you sleep better at night. Every case is different so you never know how things could go.
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I think it depends on your risk tolerance level. some could say wait to see if DFPS passes this person first. You could always start the talks with a lawyer so they are up to speed on your case and then pull the trigger if needed. So many different ways you could go, but you just have to figure out what is going to make you sleep better at night. Every case is different so you never know how things could go.
Such a difficult position to be in. Knowing that you need to do the right thing while not wanting to rock the boat.
Sometimes it works out to sit and wait it all out. That said, I'm sure you want to make sure you are doing everything possible in the best interest for the children.
It would be helpful to talk with an attorney. Some offer a free consultation. They can advise you on when/if it is the right time to intervene. Have the children been with you for the whole past year? Do you believe that CPS will support you adopting the children?