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Our agency told us in our first class that about 90% of the really young babies wind up RU with family. And I was wondering if there were any of you who did adopt the babies that came into your care or if they were RU. How long did the placement last?
My husband and I are interested in foster to adopt. This would be our first and are wondering if maybe we should look to adopting a slightly older child if the majority of very young ones go back to RU. However, we are also willing to open our home to any young child for a home; whether permanent or only short term. But we are only looking to being open for one at a time.
We are truly just two newbs and having just started classes and had our first initial home visit at the end of Dec., and will hopefully be open March-ish/April. Any advice is welcomed.
Our twin girls came to us the day of our homestudy at 11 weeks old and were our first placement. We adopted them the day before their 1st birthday. Our case was certainly not typical. That said, we know a lot of folks who have been able to adopt children that came to them as young placements. One thing that could take longe is only taking 1 child at a time since there are a lot of sibling sets (infant and toddler) that seem to get placed.
It's nearly impossible to predict how a case will go on the day of removal and every case is different. Some people adopt their first placement...others who opened at the same time with the same parameter might go years without a placement being available to adopt. If you want an infant placement, your best bet is being willing to take foster only placements knowing that you would likely adopt if it came to that...young kids usually aren't legal risk until quite a while into the case.
Good luck!
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We are a concurrent home as well and are still on the rollercoaster w/ our first placement. IMHO, I would be open to 0-2. I truly doubt you will be empty if your placement returns back to BioParents or BioFamily. Although I prefer no newborns and our youngest was under our original age range, the specifics of the our placement really led us to believe that our two will eventually be adopted.
I also know of a family that picked up their NB from the hospital and 5mo in, there hasn't been any significant progress by Biofamily so it is looking good they will be able to eventually adopt. While I know another family who has a toddler and its really up in the air. So my suggestion is to open your age range beyond NB and add specific questions about your eventual placement. Slam dunks are never slam dunks in FC World.
A week after being licensed (before we even received the official letter) we were placed with our little girl who we picked up from the hospital at 5 days old. Thirteen months later we got the call that her bio mom had another baby while in jail and did we want him as well. We picked him up from the hospital at 6 days old. While not finalized, we are told not to worry and that we should be able to adopt them together this year. They are slowing down her case and speeding his up in order to finalize at the same time so we can receive subsidies. We are beyond blessed!:love:
My son was our first newborn baby placement, my daughter was our second.
Here, bio parents have to really work hard, and consistent, to have a baby RU. Why? Because a baby is not on the radar of outside sources, like school, neighbors, etc...
That does not mean, that all babies stay with the foster family, dhs will always look into the family, to see, if someone is willing/able to take the child.
I adopted my first (and so far only) placement, she came to me at three days old. So it is possible.
I am now waiting for my next one(s).
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We are heading to adoption with our first newborn. Our case is not typical, because he is still very young, but cases involving drugs do not tend to go well IME. Both infants in our home have gone to adoption (we fostered years ago).
My son was 3 weeks old when we got him and we adopted him when he was almost a year and a half.
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baby boy was placed with us at 1 month old. He is now 8 and a 1/2 months. Parents rights were relinquished today, and judge granted us PCMs. I'm speaking with a lawyer tomorrow, to finish the adoption process. Not quite sure how long that process will take though, or how much it will cost.
I've been thinking about this one and I honestly think your agency isn't accurate with the 90% of babies RU comment. In my experience (and watching others I know) more tiny ones tend to go to adoption. In part because babies are more work in general, require daycare if parents are employed, and aren't on the radar of school personnel than older kids. Sad to say, I also think that because family have an ongoing relationship with older children, more older kids tend to go into a kinship placement.
***disclaimer...I am in NO way saying this is how it ALWAYS is. Just my opinion based on my experiences. Also...if 99% of babies went to adoption, but YOUR foster baby RU'd (or vice versa)...statistics wouldn't matter.