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Ok, I have to tell you all that sometimes it feels like I'm talking to myself...and I do enough of that!!! I wish we were more upbeat! I feel like the Step-parent forum is only a place to throw out our*What do I do?* crap..., but not a place to connect. I love my kids, and I feel like an outcast, even on these forums. I wish we as stepparents could talk openly about the stuff we worry about, cry about, laugh about... It's weird enough to start your "parenting" process with kids that you didn't give birth too, but also may also have a connection to their bparents, while YOU are raising them! I used to think our situation was like open adoption, but it's not, and I don't fit in that forum any more than a square peg in a round hole! I wish my kids' bmom had been a good mom, or even a mom, but she wasn't. But it is SO HARD to let her visit with them when she didn't bother to keep her visitation commitment to them before we started talking adoption(which she started). This is a long story, so I won't tell it now. I guess I feel like totally blown away about the lack of real support for stepparent adoption! I've heard and read that it's the most common form of adoption in the USA, but there are like 3 books, and no active support going on right now! I want to get some feedback from others, but I also hope that we just start talking!!!! Please say something, even if you don't think your situation applies!! If none of us are talking, then we have no idea how much we have to say! I know Stepparent AdoptionBlog will have something to say, and we should all be hitting her site regularly, but she seems to be the exception the the rule! Let's be proud, we are parents who love our kids and want to be the best we can be, and it's ok to know that we're not alone!!! Thank you!
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HappilyMom,
I too find it disheartening the lack of support available to step-parent adoption situations. I am new here and joined because of your post. You seem to want what I do and thought perhaps a connection could be made based on that. I will start a new thread today. The thought of the thread is giving each of us a chance to (in short) tell how we became adoptive parents or what is bringing us to that point. A get to know each other of sorts, hope ppl respond!!!!