Adopting at 44 and 46- Is there a chance?

Welcome! How exciting for you both to be discussing adoption! You are certainly not to old to adopt as many others will tell you the same. I would encourage you to talk to several agencies to find out your options whether it may be international or domestic. I will say they both come with challenges but can be overcome. Only you guys can make the decision on whether it should be international or domestic. Ask lots of questions and the decision will come for you both. Can't wait to hear how you both go forward. Keep us updated.

Hi there Hollis! DH and I were 45 when we adopted domestically. DD was a newborn. We had 2 failed international adoptions before that. I didn't know if we would ever be selected either. DD's birth family liked some stuff about us like our jobs, interests, philosophy on parenting, etc. It is definitely possible. I really have no opinion on whether domestic or international is better. They both have financial and emotional risks, but that's just how it is. Adoption is not for the feint of heart, but you can definitely do it at your ages. Oh, one other thing. Many people may tell you that you are too old to adopt. Don't you believe it. I can tell you that we love it. Running in a yard with a 2 year old is a blast! And seeing the world through a child's eyes is remarkable.

Michelle is correct. Both directions will have obstacles but a lot can be overcome. Do your research and then do some more. I say go for it. It is a scary ride but so worth it in the end.

hi,have you considered foster-adopt?

Hi, I am single and in my forties and adopted a newborn, and I am hoping to adopt again in a couple of years. I really don't think your ages will be an issue.

Your ages will not be an issue, I can almost guarantee it. We've adopted a LOT of times....both older and infants. We started when we were both 23yrs old.....and our youngest baby (newborn upon placement) came to us just over a year ago. We have done international, older child and domestic newborn. Unfortunately, all of the older child adoptions did not do well (three of them), while the other five adoptions have all done well (two now grown and on their own). Our age at our youngest baby's adoption? Each of us was 49yrs old. And I tell you what------we just had our homestudy updated to hopefully adopt another baby....and we'll each be 51. (Considering that, you're both young-uns!!!!!!! :) ) We have always requested AA babies, with a consideration for bi-racial babies. Don't know what you're looking for, but I assure you that with determination and study, you can adopt a newborn. :) Please feel free to pm me if you'd like. :) Most Sincerely, Linny

You all are great! Thanks for the encouragement! Right now we're leaning towards domestic. We really wanted Guatemala but who knows when it will be open again. We don't really have a race preference. I have done so much research and I still don't know what profile listing service is the best...We are in MA so we can't advertise. :thanks: