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Here is the brief rundown of what happened: my now husband dated a woman on and off for about 7 years. They broke up in 1997 after they stopped getting along. Sometime after this, he heard from coworkers that she filed a restraining order against him. Since here had been no domestic violence or abuse of any kind, he wasn't sure why she had done this. Stupidly, he called her to find out what had happened. She notified the police and he received notice to appear in court. He pled guilty in court, since he had contacted her. He was fined and required to get weekly counseling. He was unable to afford the counseling and had to stop going. Because of that, a warrant was put out for his arrest. He was arrested in 2002 after a traffic stop showed the warrant.
What shows up on his criminal check is a domestic violence court order violation, not classified. Doesn't show up as a misdemeanor.
I have absolutely no doubt that this was a misunderstanding and a bad decision on his part to contact her, and I can tell you that this is not in any way what I know of him after 6.5 years.
Even though I know this, will an agency?
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Hi...we adopted domestically and my hubby has a felony forgery charge from back in 1993. We passed our homestudy and was able to adopt. However, I do know that if the charge is something like domestic violence or any kind of violence....most agencies may reject you. We didn't use an agency, we used an adoption atty. Basically, "they" want to make sure you won't commit any type of crime against children, so you may be able to get around it. Let me know how your homestudy goes.Blessings, Michelle
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mondk
Hi...we adopted domestically and my hubby has a felony forgery charge from back in 1993. We passed our home study and was able to adopt.
Well, when we had our fingerprints done, we knew his felony would come up, so we had already told our homestudy SW. She was the one who told us that the reason behind the fingerprints was to make sure no crimes against children had been committed. The agency we liked said if it was only forgery that we could get around it. However, we ended up matching with the atty. When we first met bmom before being picked, we flat out told her and she didn't have a problem with it. Good luck! Blessings, Michelle
I am encouraged by everyone's stories that it could be possible to adopt with a felony record. We have tried for years to have kids with no success. My husband has 1 felony and a few misdemenours from years ago. The felony is nothing to do with kids; it was a drug charge. Does he have to be off parole before we can proceed with trying to adopt?
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luna2010
I am encouraged by everyone's stories that it could be possible to adopt with a felony record. We have tried for years to have kids with no success. My husband has 1 felony and a few misdemenours from years ago. The felony is nothing to do with kids; it was a drug charge. Does he have to be off parole before we can proceed with trying to adopt?
Not to pick on you, Luna - but as a foster care adoption specialist - a couple things stuck out in your post to me that might be a red flag to an agency. Your husband had a felony and several misdemeanors from what you relay as "years ago", but then you ask if he has to be off parole to be able to adopt... an agency is going to want a full explanation for why he has a combination of several convictions, which he served prison time for, and then also apparently had to be on parole for afterwards that lasted what sounds to be a significant amount of time. Just wanted you to know what's going to be a flag to them so you can be prepared to answer it...
luna2010
I am encouraged by everyone's stories that it could be possible to adopt with a felony record. We have tried for years to have kids with no success. My husband has 1 felony and a few misdemenours from years ago. The felony is nothing to do with kids; it was a drug charge. Does he have to be off parole before we can proceed with trying to adopt?
I agree that it is best to ask the question up front before you sign with any agency. Every state is different and depending on your state something like a domestic violence issue may be something that would keep you from being approved. Best thing is just to be honest and the social worker should be able to let you know right away if it's going to be possible.
Good Luck to you!!
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