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Praying about adoption sometimes feel a little like praying at a ballgame :); there's only one winner and both teams are praying.
I once asked my mom when I was very discouraged "what good are all these prayers when others are praying for the same baby?" When you pray about health, no one's praying for sickness.
So I've found myself always praying that whatever prospect is underway is the baby God created for me, rather than praying for this bm to pick me. I believe that God already knows what baby is mine and that He made him/her just for us - do you feel the same?
Still I find it very hard not to get discouraged when I know so many people are praying for me and still the situations don't work out. I think, well if He already knows which ones mine, what are the prayers doing. So then I pray for Him to hurry up and reveal His plan!! :love: I'm not demanding at all :cool:
Would love to hear what others are thinking when you pray for your baby.
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When we were waiting, I felt the same as you...a bit at odds praying for a baby to come into my life, because in essence I would be praying for another woman to become pregnant and go through great pain to fulfill my wish...
So I would pray for peace knowing we were on the right path, and the wisdom to make the right decision when the time came...I also prayed that the expectant mothers and fathers would have the strength to make the best choice for them...and that God watch over all of us, especially the child.
Good luck to you!
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I pray that our hearts and homes may be prepared for the new baby that comes while we wait.I pray that the mothers who are pregnant and in counseling at our agency will be guided in the decision that is best for them and their baby.I pray that I will be patient and ready to embrace our next baby into our family!
I prayed, first and foremost, for God's will to be done.
Like you said, He knew who my child was, if I was to have one. I let Him do the worrying/details.
:)
Also, I prayed a fervent Novena to St. Gerard, patron of mothers. I learned about St. Gerard, I prayed for his intercession often, and I trusted in God.
I'm not saying this will happen in every situation, but three days after I started my Novena, I got a call from halfway across the country informing me that a distant friend of the family was in a crisis pregnancy.
Lonnnnng story short, she ended up placing her baby with me, and thanks be to God, our daughter is 17 months old now!
The Bible does say to ask for what you want in prayer. Even though God knows without your asking, he wants you to ask so he can give it to you. I don't think God expects a PC prayer either!Every time you pray to get a job, someone else is not going to get it.Every time you ask for a good parking space, or a short checkout line there will be someone cruising the parking lot or waiting in line behind you. (And they are probably praying you will hurry up!)So just tell God what you want and wait for him to give you what He wants you to have. It will be right!
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We prayed a lot throughout our adoption journey. Like WAMozart said, we prayed that first and foremost that His will be done (sometimes hard to do when you really want something). We knew we wanted to adopt and believed it was in His will for us to do so. We prayed for each birthmother (for her peace, her health, etc. irregardless of her choice) and each baby. With each opportunity I prayed this was THE one, our baby (so much for HIS will!) ;-) With each disappointment we prayed again for the birthmother and baby and for our (my) patience and peace. When we got the call that our birthmother wanted to interview us, I prayed that I wouldn't get my hopes up too high. Well that opportunity turned out to be the right one for us; and the day after that interview we brought our son home. I've lost count of how many times people have told us how much he looks like one or both of us. That's further proof that God does not make mistakes. He knew our son well before we did. He will do the same for you. Now that our son is home, we still pray for his birthmother and for ourselves as parents.
MamaS
The Bible does say to ask for what you want in prayer. Even though God knows without your asking, he wants you to ask so he can give it to you.
I don't think God expects a PC prayer either!
Every time you pray to get a job, someone else is not going to get it.
Every time you ask for a good parking space, or a short checkout line there will be someone cruising the parking lot or waiting in line behind you. (And they are probably praying you will hurry up!)
So just tell God what you want and wait for him to give you what He wants you to have. It will be right!
I pray to St. Gerard, too, and do the prayer of the Novena. My main prayer is that the right child/children enter our family in His most perfect way. If I believe that He has a plan for my life, I have to believe that whatever the circumstances are that our child enters our family, it is His most perfect way. (All of my most perfect ways have been a bust so far - LOL:)
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We are now aparents to two wonderful children (dd 5 and ds 2.5yrs) ... both adopted domestically at birth (not biological siblings). I remember waiting and praying LOTS.
I found it very had to "Let go and Let God". In retrospect, I wish I'd have trusted God more fully.
In addition to doing some of the above suggestions (you've gotten alot of excellent perspectives/suggestions) ... I also prayed ferverently to St. Jude. It's not that we were despairing or hopeless ... but sometimes "things" seemed so unlikely to happen and we did feel a bit hopeless.
For me, prayers to St. Jude have always (eventually) been answered. Of course, I'm careful to pray in such a way that my prayer is more-or-less answerable. For example ... I wouldn't pray that a particular match would be successful ... I'd pray that one day hubby and I would be parents. 'Kind of left the prayer open to be answered. :flower:
One day, while we were in the homestudy process, I was praying to St. Jude as I washed dishes, and all of a sudden I felt a peace come over me. At that moment, I just "knew" that one day we'd be parents. Was that ever nice ... to really believe adoption would happen.
I totally remember how hard the wait was ... ((( hugs to you )))
Maria
Prayer to St. Jude
(To be said when problems arise or when one seems to be deprived of all visible help, or for cases almost despaired of.)
Most holy apostle, St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the Church honours and invokes you universally, as the patron saint of hopeless cases, of things almost despaired of. Pray for me, I am so helpless and alone. Make use, I implore you, of that particular privilege given to you, to bring visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need that I may receive the consolation and help of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations, and sufferings, particularly - (here make your request), and that I may praise God with you and all the elect forever.
I promise, O blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favour, to always honour you as my special and powerful patron, and to gratefully encourage devotion to you.
Amen.