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born 2-4-57 F
Dear Mom,
I have been searching for you for 30+ years now. My reasons have changed over the years, but I have always wanted to know who you are and what you are like. I am writing this letter to you in hopes that perhaps you may at least see this and know something of me.
I have always known I was adopted. My adopted parents were wonderful and although my adopted father died when I was 12, I have had a great, loving home. I hope that this may have been one reason you had to let me go and this will ease your mind some.
I have had all the regular rough spots in life through the teen years to now, but nothing that any other child would not normally go through growing up. I had 2 little sisters, the middle child also adopted and then 7 year later they were blessed with their own - something they did not believe was possible. We grew up as a great family and remain close still. I had a huge extended family with many Aunts and Uncles, tons of cousins and such and always big gatherings at holidays.
I was married at 28 to a wonderful man and now have 2 wonderful boys - 22, will graduate college soon and will be in med school, and 20years old and in college. They are the pride and joy of my life. I will tell you that when I first became pregnant, I searched very hard for you because I wanted medical information if nothing else. I received non-identifing info. that did nothing really, but as both are very healthy young men now, I am greatful that this was never a problem.
As I get older I have realised that perhaps you may not want to be found, for your own reasons. I understand this better - but still would love to know many things. Those mostly are - who do I look like, do my boys take after your side of the family, do I have any brothers or sisters? There are of course more questions, but if I never find you rest assured that I am fine.
With all the technology through the internet - if you should read this because you wanted to know I am O.K. - I am, and if you can't ever meet me for your own reasons - that too is o.k. Just know I am happy and am living a good life. I will continue to search for you, it is just something I have to do for me. I hope to find you one day, also happy and healthy, and fill this one void in my life.
Your Daughter born 2/4/1957 in Washington D.C., adopted through catholic charities and was at St. Ann Infant and Maternity Home.
Love,
Joan Ann(or Tracy Ann -as the adoption paper tell me)
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Joan, your letter was quite simply , a joy to read. I am a firstmom to twinboys who are 22, yet to find them, but this is a letter ANY firstmom would be greatful to recieve. I wish you luck! Has your mom helped you with any info of your adoption? What info do you have?, if you don't mind sharing....Your firstmom would most likely be from the 50-60's eara, so she is getting up in years and I am sure she would love knowing you are well! I send this with a heartfelt thank you , for sharing, along with peace and serenity....
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Joan Ann,
Loved your letter and, since I was born in 1956, I could have written it - just not as elequently as you did. I even thought of writing Dear Abby about 10 years ago - just the same kind of letter. I wanted my bmom to know the rest of the story and that she had done the right thing and that I was loved.
After my amom passed away, I registered on this website and, after a year, I was found by a friend of bmom who had decided to find me as a gift to bmom. She is 70 (was 18 when I was born) and not computer literate. She would never have searched for me - she had no right - and wouldn't have had a clue how even if she wanted to. She obviously thought about me since she had told this friend enough information to locate me. We are thrilled about this reunion and are moving quickly into an ongoing relationship. Meeting me brought her healing and peace. She also knew where my bdad, her highschool sweetheart, is and I'm also in a relationship with him.
It can happen - but I wouldn't count on her being computer savy - or read anything into you not being found. It was pure luck and 6 months of searching by someone else that I was found. She also may not have talked about you to others - my bdad had told his wife and his brother but I was not something that was brought up. But he is thrilled I was found too. There are others our age that have found their bparents and some even older. Good luck and I hope the stars bring you together.
Jill