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Two weeks ago things were really busy for me(or so I thought).I recievd 2 calls. One was for a possible foster care referral of 2 siblings ages 3 and 4. I said yes(but the county was looking at other families) it was so exciting and the same week got a possible match for 2 separate children up for adoption.I also said yes.
I almost knew it was too good to be true :banana: Well it was,when the foster placement worker said I said yes to the adoption worker I had to remove my name from the placement for the foster placement :hissy: .
It was still okay because at least the worker for the 2 other children were considering us....or so I thought!!!
We now I am back to square one with no child prospects.I am beginning to add on to my count down again.Five months and still no placements and VERY FEW calls.So my question is ,is it just me or has anyone in Pennsylvania had many referrals lately?
Last summer I got a placement BEFORE I was certified,but is it usually this slow in the summer months?
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Not me, what about you? I just came back from a weekend trip and a LONG talk with the director(C) before I left.He said things are really,really,really slow and the ones they get are really out of what I am looking for.
Although I get really depressed hearing this I know that soon I will get a call for the children who are supposed to be with me.My biggest problem is I have ZERO patience:hissy:
So have you heard anything this week?
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No, no respite referrals, because I was going to be gone for 2 weeks. Yes, my daughter's caseworker is the placement worker. I dont' know if things are slow or not, haven't really been in touch with her since we're out of state and she knows we have a few things going on right now. My fingers are crossed you get a call soon...
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Hey guys, pretty new to all this...I was wondering what counties you are in? My husband and i are looking foster to adopt and we are now with an agency...we were with the county, but they were not comforting and kept reminding me that we are fostering with the ultimate goal to reunify. We really want to adopt so we went to an agency and we understand we may not get an infant...anyways...just wondering what counties you are in that you are not getting any calls. Thanks so much!
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It sure did....I do wish I had gone through the county, only because I know they place the children first and we really want an infant. But we need our hand held through this process and I am sure my heart will be broken so I know going through the agency will be better. Just very very nervous!
I'm looking at a private agency and resigned from the county. They are strictly reunification and in one of my cases--almost mob-like in their approach to it. I won't mention the county because of my comment. My first foster child came to me at birth til he was 5+ months and we willingly transitioned him to kinship (with a broken heart). A couple weeks later the kinship mother wanted him returned to me and called me to tell me she spoke with the county. Being new, I rejoiced....only to get an education of my life. They practically strong-armed her into keeping him. It was only two weeks, so in retrospect, I understand it better now a year later (but she shouldn't have called me). Then almost a year later he was up for adoption she called me again and said adamantly (and very decidedly that she was not adopting him). With this information, I wrote a letter of intent and started the process. I got the run-around and didn't understand what was happening and after several letters to understand why we weren't being considered were not being responded to after we were told to get family profile update, we got the state officials involved. Only to find out five months later, broken hearted once more that the kinship mother changed her mind (again, why did she call me) and why did the county not tell me when I only came forward due to her call and specifically said we would like to be considered only if kinship wasn't found. It took 3 letters to them, three letter to state officials before we got an answer that they could have given us easily. The state official said they are not "required" to. Therefore, it is left open to them and they chose to be heartless. It was heartbreaking. I am sensitive and need hand-holding myself and after this experience I know I should have always gone private. Wish I knew this before.
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I'm looking at a private agency and resigned from the county. They are strictly reunification and in one of my cases--almost mob-like in their approach to it. I won't mention the county because of my comment. My first foster child came to me at birth til he was 5+ months and we willingly transitioned him to kinship (with a broken heart). A couple weeks later the kinship mother wanted him returned to me and called me to tell me she spoke with the county. Being new, I rejoiced....only to get an education of my life. They practically strong-armed her into keeping him. It was only two weeks, so in retrospect, I understand it better now a year later (but she shouldn't have called me). Then almost a year later he was up for adoption she called me again and said adamantly (and very decidedly that she was not adopting him). With this information, I wrote a letter of intent and started the process. I got the run-around and didn't understand what was happening and after several letters to understand why we weren't being considered were not being responded to after we were told to get family profile update, we got the state officials involved. Only to find out five months later, broken hearted once more that the kinship mother changed her mind (again, why did she call me) and why did the county not tell me when I only came forward due to her call and specifically said we would like to be considered only if kinship wasn't found. It took 3 letters to them, three letter to state officials before we got an answer that they could have given us easily. The state official said they are not "required" to. Therefore, it is left open to them and they chose to be heartless. It was heartbreaking. I am sensitive and need hand-holding myself and after this experience I know I should have always gone private. Wish I knew this before.