Worried Beyond Belief - Kinship Placement/Adoption

I am sorry it's so long and badly punctuated :love: . This whole situation is complicated and I needed to vent. The paternal side of my family is no longer speaking to me and I am trying to keep the maternal side of my family, who are no blood relation to the child, out of it because some of them work for CPS. And there is no use in all of us being stressed :banana: The daughter of my half brother and his ex was taken into CPS custody at 9 months of age. They have since relinquished their rights after not meeting reunification goals and facing losing the child she was carrying as well as any other children born. My step mom was denied custody in the beginning. No other relatives were looked at for placement and my "family" didn't even tell CPS about me, a teacher who has 10 years experience of teaching and working with abused and neglected children and 3 years in college working with special needs children. The family would have rather seen my niece in foster care than placed with me 5 hours away. I called the caseworker and told her I would be more than willing to provide care if no family in their county could. The worker was shocked they didn't tell her about me because in her words I was the "perfect placement" with childcare experience , training and no criminal history. My niece was with a wonderful foster family for 9 months, until the background checks, fingerprinting, homestudy, reference checks and all other formalities had been completed. It took twice as long because of dealing with 2 counties. The maternal grandparents have only seen her three times in the nine months before she was placed in foster care. They told CPS they had no interest in taking the child in when this all started more a year ago. According to my brothers ex, they didn't want anything to do with her or the baby because the baby is biracial. My brothers ex even told her parents while she was pregnant the child she just gave birth to, who is also my brother's child, was not his and was not biracial. It was only then that her wealthy parents took her in, bought her a house and a new car. Before that, she was homeless, 8 months pregant and living in a shelter and I was the one driving 5 hours to give her visitation, making sure she got to her visits and taking her back to the shelter before curfew. The M. Grandparents saw my niece once in the 14 months since she's been in CPS custody. That was just in August during mom's court ordered post termination visits until adoption. ( She's been with me 5 months and CPS is waiting to start adoption until she has been with me 6 months and that is 8 days before her 2nd birthday which is when all subsidy will kick in.) During that 1 vist with the m. Grandparents, they gave me a "gift" of $300, which I immediately tried to give back. They said "Its only money. We have plenty of it and we can always make more. Its not fair that you have to incur the cost of all the visitations and travel alone." They thanked me for taking her in and taking such good care of her. Imagine my shock when these Grandparents that have had nothing to do with her filed a motion to modify the termination order giving them possessory conservatorship and said I begged them for the money they gave me and they fear for her emotional well being and physical health because they think I am incapable of providing financially for her. Here I am, trying to do the right thing by a adopting her so she will still get to know both sides of her family and still have some relationship with her biological parents. I have one set of grandparents who wanted nothing to do with this baby taking me to court in 4 days and the whole paternal side threatening to because they thought I would get her and after termination I would just give her back and place her in the same situation as before. (With a paternal grandmother who had temporary guardianship at the time she was taken and kicked them out, allowing 2 addicts to take the baby she had guardianship of with them) The CPS caseworkers in the county of origin, the former ad litem, CPS attorney and the CPS and Kinship workers in my county are all on my side and have written letters to be submitted to the court on my behalf. It's still up to the judge and the what-ifs have kept me stressed and upset for the past 3 weeks. CPS said it's unfortunate that both sides of the famiily all of a sudden want to step up after termination and CPS has legal custody of her and she and I are stuck in the middle. I am scared out of my mind of losing her THIS close to adoption.