Any recommended books for older adoptions?

November 2, 2009

My husband and I are just starting to research older children adoption. We have our adoption orientation with the county the end of this month and then PRIDE training in a few months and I'm sure they will be able to recommend some good books but I was hoping to get a jump on it. I have been reading "Adopting the Older Child" but I wanted to see if anyone else had other books they have read and would recommend. Thanks in advance!!

Shelly77

November 5, 2009

I read and enjoyed "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew" ...That may not be exact but you should be able to find it with that searched title.

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DannieAS

November 5, 2009

"parenting the hurt child" is a good follow-up to 'adopting the hurt child'.

Not necessarily adoption related, but I enjoyed reading "parenting with love and logic" as it usually has discipline methods that work with children adopted from foster care....this book is also mentioned a lot in 'parenting the hurt child'.

I also enjoyed this book "a love like no other: stories from adoptive parents" Not an informational book, it's a collection of different people's experience with their kids...however, it just highlights the good, bad, and ugly...and it's nice to read different outcomes and the different struggles other families had.

aspenhall

November 5, 2009

Start reading every post in the "Special Needs" forum....It's as much info as a book! :)

benandkatieh

November 15, 2009

i don't know if it's necessarily for adopting older kids, but an adoptee here on another forum recommended "The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child" to me, and although i haven't purchased it yet, i've read snipets from amazon.com. it looks excellent.

PinkandBlue

January 2, 2010

I've been having a lot of trouble with my 15-year old adopted at 12. As I read back over her file from social services that I saw 3 1/2 years ago, it was all there, but now that she is older the same issues have taken on a different form in the acting out behaviors. I wish that I had become certified for therapeutic home; it would have prepared me better for what was to come and for what to expect given her history before she came to me. I would recommend any of Nancy Thomas' books that address attachment/trauma issues. Chances are that the older adoptee will have the attachment issues to some extent. Also, as someone else stated, check out the special needs boards here. Good luck, and let us know how it goes!