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We are first time parents and are in the beginning stages of placement. We are in NC and they are in TX. Im excited and nervous too. What i wonder is how they will transition to a new family, a new state, a new school, etc. That seems overwelming to me, i can only imagine how they will feel. We are just getting the paperwork to sign off on and start visitation. My concern is that the visitations will be few and they will be moved too quickly. Im excited to get them here but not at the risk of making it harder on them. :coffee:
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Congrats! Although I can not give you any advice (lack of experience) I can tell you twins are a riot! I have twin nephews and they are really neat to interact with. I hope your journey is exciting and full of great joy.
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Congratulations!!!
Love twin boys! But sometimes, they an be exhausting - best friends, yes, but man do they learn how to push each other's buttons in a hurry.
We just moved cross country, and my boys are in their 3rd school in as many years. It took them until Christmas to really start not talking about their old friends on a regular basis. It might be a good idea to get a couple of phone numbers or addresses so they can keep in touch?
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Wow. I can't imagine. I did adopt an eight year old, and my first thought to how you can spend time bonding one on one. When my daughter came I spent the first year primarily with her.
Good luck. I know it all work out. How exciting.
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well the boys files have arrived at my agency now... im sure i have alot of reading in store for me this weekend. Once we signoff on this, it will be time to proceed with setting up visitations....one step closer now!! Im getting excited. I cant wait to read all the info on them. I have so many questions. Once we sign off, we have been asked to prepare a video to send to the boys to kind of show them a little of us before we meet. Wow... im still in awe that we have gotten this far...
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I wish I could have read my girl's file in my home. I actually could not be left alone with the file. I wrote down anything I thought she would want to know at age 18. I'm going back on Friday to read some more.
Are your twins identical?
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If you can, talk to the former foster parents and the school about the twins. My twins paperwork kept lumping them together as if they were one person with no seperate identity. It would go into detail about the older siblings then say "and the twins"...
As for transitions, how long have they been in their current placement? If it's been long term, then yes, they may need more time, especially if they are bonded to the foster family(another thing the fp can answer for you). However, if they've moved alot, long transitions can cause more stress on the kids then a quicker move.
Congratulations!
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no they arent identical and they both have their individual behaviors that we are going to have to help them. One is very outspoken and angry when he doesnt get his way when HE wants it and the other is very imaginative but does have anger issues too. I imagine that being in fostercare for the past 5 yrs and the trauma that brought them there is hard to overcome. The details are all in the files, thank goodness. From the foster placements, to the original family and psych and medical appts. Im lucky to have all that to refer to. It looks like they have not have a failed placement in the past but the files have scared previous prospective adopt families away... Still reading now and still committed to the boys..:male: :male:
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