Rejected by Birth mom and now siblings too!

That's gotta hurt. I hope the brother will step out from behind them and try getting to know you.

There are people that grow up together from birth that do not talk much once they have reached their adult years. It is nice to have someone to reach out to from time to time. But sometimes people are to wrapped up in themselves to care about others. Focus on the people that are already there for you and have always been there.

I agree with Gooddad. I found my birth family last week on Facebook and the jury is still out on where it will go. One thing I do know, I am even more sure that I grew up in the best family ever. We had our moments but every family does. Focus on those people that gave you love your ENTIRE life and know that your life has meaning and tons of worth!! If they are horrible people than you can rest assured that you are fortunate not to have grown up in a horrible family. Don't forget that who you are has nothing to do with who they are. It has everything to do with the way you lived your life and the choices you made.

After a couple days filled with anger, I've come to that determination myself. I'm actually GRATEFUL I'm adopted now! :love: My family is WONDERFUL!

I'm so sorry you had to feel that way!! I'm happy you do have a loving family, I hope you can heal and enjoy them fully... I wish you the best!

Is there a reason that your sister is horrible? Were you raised in a financially well to do family that they did not have? Were you handed everything with trips to Europe, private schools, etc & find out that all of them work for a living? Are you being judgmental? Do you look down on your birthmother cause she has a beer every now & then? Well, there's 2 sides to every story, & you can't expect others to live their life the way you think they should live it. Were you pampered your entire life? Are you just being cynical? If this not be the case, at least give them time to get to know you, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Your birthmom is your flesh & blood, period, evidently she wanted the best for you & perhaps your bi siblings are sorting through feelings of their own. Too bad your mom didn't live up to your expectations, that must hurt deeply. Give them time, time has a way of changing things, & nothing is permanent, only change! Narrow-mindedness is the killer here. Did you go around "my parents this", "my parents that" like a spoiled child that hasn't quite grown up as an adult himself? life is short which you'll soon find out and you were a "gift" send from God to be raised by those that could provide for you... Good luck.

can i just say that i TOTALLY empathize with you and your situation. it SUCKS! I know what it's like to have our birthfamily be acting so horrible. i am very sorry.regardless of how they were raised or how you were raised it's not fair of them to treat us like that because DANGIT we were the ones given away and unless you were the baby you can't understand it!!! so i validate u! and wish you all the best

wow... you probably didn't mean to but you came across a bit harsh to the poster. Chill.

Jokingly, I asked my "long lost son" if he wrote this post. He said, "No, I think you guys are cool". My intend was to get to the truth of the matter with this poster, just why are they being "horrible" to him? Instead of me pouring out my story, setting aside the harsh reality of it all, and the beauty of a grand reunion, let's hear the reason behind his biological mom's horror & cruel behavior & that of his half siblings. I'd like to read about the "why" are they this way to him? I'm sure I've asked some good questions only to be answered by the poster. At this point I'm sure poster isn't overly sensitive to questions that I haven't hesitated to ask; everyone in this adoption triad has varied life situations, no two are the same, there is more than one side to this story. Question everything, & don't be so quick to judge other's posts according to your beliefs. We are here to help the poster as human beings & I find it odd that his birth mom would lack any empathy, but then I haven't walked a mile in her shoes.

Created22, you're leaping to a lot of assumptions here that really are not warranted by what the OP has said. Their behavior does not have to be because of the OP looking down on them and acting snooty. There are a lot of cases when bfamilies don't react well to being contacted. In many cases, bparents (especially bmothers) have to deal with a lot of emotions that they had repressed for many years, and that's very hard to do, so sometimes they lash out at the person confronting them with these emotions -- the adoptee. Many bsiblings don't like finding out that there is another sibling. This is particularly true of those who had always thought they were the oldest, only to find out there was an older one out there somewhere. Or, maybe the sister is reacting to the fact that her mother is upset. There are a lot of reasons why the bfamily might be reacting this way, and I think the things you're acusing the OP of are really a lot less likely than many others. That's not to say it's not possible, but it's far from warranted to assume that's the case.

No one is assuming anything here, these are just questions, and certainly not accusing OP of anything & contrary to your assumptions in regard to my questions - THIS might very well be the case! I hope OP finds PEACE. Now let's hear from OP! & I will have to agree that it SUCKS that a reunion turns out sour. As LOVE is the Essence of ALL LIFE.

What the heck happened to HUMANITY? Too much fluoride in the water? Mercury in the vaccines? I can't believe the cruelty of these so called HUMANS? It's like they aren't human at all or from a different planet. My daughter was a professed LESBIAN, but when I found her older brother, now she's suddenly heterosexual, WTH? Strange world we're living in.