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I have a bit of a dilema to which I am simply needing some answers or reassurance. My husband and I are about to enter an adoption process with a safe haven baby we recieved not too long ago. We were told what will happen--- you'll be contacted by an adoption agency worker, it's a more extensive detailed homestudy, etc., etc., I am a worry wort by nature. Lol My husband and I have a "Everybody Loves Raymond" life, except it's very intolerable at times. We are at that time, where his dad and him can't see eye to eye, and even though it is clear he is driving people away from him, and has another son in law who can't stand him, my hubby's sister will not at all admit that there are faults on her parents end, just my husbands. We've been trying to hand this in a christian manner as much as possible, but you can only do so much. We've tried to be firm, lay out oour boundaries, but his parents want things their way. Did I mention they live down the street/ Anyways, will this affect us having in laws/parents who we are not seeing eye to eye with? It SHOULDN'T. Like we are the ONLY ones in America to have jerks for inlaws? If you knew my situation more, you'd know how this is out of our control and we have tried. But not looking like it's gonna get resolved any time soon. Not in a couple weeks anyhow. I just hope things like that don't get held against you cause it's not your fault who you have for a mother, brother, sister,--- you can choose your friends but not your family.
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We just finished our adoptive homestudy and I havent spoken to my mom in a year. I told the AW that I found out she was buying pain pills and smoking pot behind everyone in the families back and I told her I didnt want her around my kids. I told her that my mom tries to text me a couple of times a week but I do not answer. I hope she gets help I really do but I will not allow her around my kids until she does! It wasnt a big deal but yes you will need to be able to talk about it!
Ok. Thank you. ;) As it looks at this point, we are going to be able to resolve things. Will we have issues again in the future? I'm sure, because of our location and well, they're in laws. Lol I think in laws were made to be difficult. But I figure, if we can "pass" to become foster parents, and they go into some PRETTY deep detail and questioning about everything, we SHOULD be able to pass the homestudy. All in God's Hands! Just getting anxious, and I'm sure I'm having all sorts of normal feelings that everyone does. And like I said, you can't be blamed for your situation, so even if we discuss it like you say we will, what can they do. It's not like because you have grandparents or don't for the kid that he will be raised a mess. Certain life situations can't or shouldn't be held against you, cause to me, that's discrimination.