We Got Her!!

Just remember that she will be terrified, grieving, sad, scared and overwhelmed. What is a happy day for you is one of the worst of her life. Keep her world small, quiet and structured and focus on building her trust again. She has just lost everything in the world that matters to her - her home, her family, her parents, her "normal" -- even if it was awful, it was still HERS. She needs to take the time to believe that the world just doesn't blow up randomly.

you ar eso completely right. We get so excited about placements, and it's an awful day in a child's life. Even iwht our current placement, they came from another home, and the oldest who was barrely two, was terrified. we were the third home of the week, and it was an awful first few days. anytime we went out, tears would ensue, the child was positive we were taking him to another home, not coming back for him, etc. simple explainations like 'we're going to get groceries, then we'll go back home. we're staying with you.' he'd calm down.

Congratulations! I hope this night goes smooth for you, my oldest daughter was 2 when she was placed with us and we really just took our time with her and showed her around the house and stayed in her bedroom for hours so that she got used to it. I'm so excited for you!!!

She, well we, got a good solid 5 hours of sleep. Way more than I anticipated! Believe me I understand that she's scared. The gravity of the situation is not lost on us. It's sort of like accepting an organ...someone had to die for you to live. She's adjusting fairly well outside of the usual age 2 nearly 3 attitude. We have a few things to pick up today and then I think she'll be good until we know what they are going to do. There is a grandparent that has asked for her. We should know today.