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I am 35 single female and new foster parent. So far my calls have been for teen girls that have not worked out for one reason or another. Saturday I got a call about teenage boys. I said I would like to talk to a worker about one of the three boys they needed homes for. As any other singles fostered kids of another sex.
Well, you'd have about 20 years of age on any child arriving in your home. I don't think the dynamic will be significantly different between boys and girls, AFA establishing that you're in charge. (Both will be resistant to that, although perhaps in different ways.) From there, if you really have no rapport with boys, I'd say so. If that's not the case... find out more about each child. I last had a 14-y-o boy, and my friend who said, "I was afraid for you", on meeting him said, "He's totally shy, and nice." Yep. (Well, for the first few months at any rate.)
Is your goal adoption, or just fostering?
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Personally, I wouldn't recommend fostering an opposite sex child as a young single parent. PM me if you want :)
My goal would be to adopt but in Iowa that is not easy with teens. Most are not made adoptable. They even have a term for unadoptable teens.
Why are they not adoptable?? I'm a single mom and after first placement of 2 sister, i fostered all boys. They're loud and sloppy but I love my guys!!
It is just the way it is with some older kids in Iowa they just don't take parents rights away and leave them in foster care till they are 18. Even if they can not go back home or parents will not take them back
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