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I live an hour and a half from my Foster sons family. We had to go the area to pick up his glasses so I went and picked up his brother and we all went to lunch. Than took his brother back and FS went to mall and hung out with friends for a while. It all went well. Would not have let his brother out of my sight for 2 mintues but FS I did not worry about to much.
My real question is how often should I drive him to see family. It is an hour and half away. Once you pay for gas and at least one meal if not two it starts to add up. Where I live it is an hour to closest mall or place to do any major shopping so I do have to drive now and than. Want him to see his brother and other family but I have an older car. Wondering what other people do.
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m has 2 or 3 visits a wk at her moms 90 mins away if that helps. they want to re u by june though so they need to encourage bonding right now
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I used to do it once a week. When I had W (7 years ago), visits were at DSS office. Now, fps and bios have to arrange visits. We used to go to a park once a week. In the winter, we either went to a mall or someone's house (not always feasible).
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My DS's (recently finalized!) family are nearly five hours away by car. We are only able to visit every few months.
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mynewhomeiowa
Wondering what other people do.
I don't/didn't transport for visits. One county either used our agency or used in house transportation staff. Then visits were supervised by designated "visit supervisors"...other counties have used the agency transport and had visits monitored by case workers.
Frankly, I don't feel is a foster parent's role to transport and monitor visits.
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DCYF should have set their visitation requirements when the moved the child that far away.
When DD came to us (we were 1hr, 40 mins away.. i tiny bit more than you), there was a monthly visit requirement. We knew that going in. That said, we were a few months away from TPR. If we were earlier in the case, they probably would not have moved her this far away.
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ladyjubilee
Frankly, I don't feel is a foster parent's role to transport and monitor visits.
Don't know if it is my job but no one eles is going to do it.... Plus he has an older sister how keeps him for a few days on holidays which give me a little break.... I want him to be with family but don't want to put to many miles on my car.....
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There's a blog somewhere by a former foster child. One of her insights that stuck with me.. how it must feel to be a kid with no "real family" being shuttled around to various visits, not by her foster MOM but by a stranger.
It was a royal pain taking j to visits, but I'd never consider letting a stranger or professional transporter do it. that said, I had no problem arguing about what was a reasonable visitation plan
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