Paperwork questions

Not that I can see. They ask about relationships with all family members good and bad and ask why if they are bad. Not really a big deal. But they ask really personal questions and my homestudy was about 16 pages long and I'm a single.

Be honest about the situation & you shouldn't have a problem. If you try to hide things is when you run into problems. We recently had a falling out with a family member that we had to cut out of our lives completely, I spoke to my worker & explained the issue. Fortunately during our home study I was honest about the strained relationship with this person in the past & our agency thanked us for being honest & that was it.

I had an Agency send me their info. packet, including application. One of the questions is adult children information, that they want to contact them for references. I don't want this, they will not be nice! I don't think I'm going to go with this agency (there are 2 other I seem to be leaning towards and will probably choose one of those)... but I assume the questions they ask at all agencies are basically the same. Do they have to contact his adult children?? If so, I'm doomed! :sick:

I would say to be up front & honest with your recruiter or whoever it is you're working with. I would call & say you noticed the questions in the application & let them know you won't be able to provide the children for references as they don't agree with your relationship etc. I am sure plenty of people who have issues with their children have adopted. The worst they can say is no.

I hope they don't say "no". That means no child for me! :grr:

Well I say that because you were saying you were thinking about going with another agency. Not because it isn't a big deal. Sorry if that came out wrong.

Oh, thank you for the clarification. ;) I spoke to one of the agencies I'm interested in and explained the situation to her. She said she didn't see that as being a problem, that they would document the situation and they wouldn't contact them. I have another agency I'm interested in coming to our house today at 3:30. We'll see what they have to say!

See! I was super nervous the first time we did this but I have learned honesty is the best policy when it comes to DFPS. I think when you try to avoid topics or hide them, it makes them think you have a REASON to hide it. Good luck on your licensing!

We met with another agency tonight and she basically said the same thing, that she didn't think it was an issue, that they have other foster families that don't have relationships with their adult children. Now I will find about 100 other things to worry about! :D

I posted on this very subject a couple of days ago. Unfortunately, DFPS told us there was no way around getting something from my adult child (who is refusing to fill out the form they sent and refusing to call the social worker back). She no longer lives at home. We are in limbo, and trying to reason with her, and its a horrible situation to be in.:hissy: I could see if we had abused her, were terrible parents, were horrible people......but we're not and did not. She is trying to extort us for money in exchange for her cooperation in this. We are not wealthy people. Its heartbreaking.

I have 7 siblings and do not have a relationship with any of them, same for my birth father who died last year. My husband has no contact with his family either. We have a family unit with our bio daughter, our neighbors and many many good friends who are truly are family. We decided not to associate with my families because they are not like us. I am a foster parent and their kids are in foster care! They aren't the type of people I want in my life or that of my children. My parents were bad parents, they abused alcohol, the welfare system us and eachother. Some people came over come that and be better for it, as I, I vowed to be a better mother then my own, my sisters sadly don't see a problem and have continued the cycle. We were approved. I explained generally on the paperwork and in more detail with our worker. We were placed with DJ 01/05/12 and her adoption is set for 12/19/12! So we must be doing something right! Just explain the children, who are adults had a bad reaction to the marriage and although you love them the relationship is not there. It's ok! Best wishes!