Is this even possible?

There is always hope if you allow yourself to have it.It is too late for the state to facilitate an adoption, but that doesn't mean you can't ever find a family to love you. Sometimes older kids from hard homes end up living with the families of their friends. It usually starts with an occasional sleep over and grows into more.If you haven't already then you should find a church that has at good sized group of teens and a dedicated youth pastor. I'd like to think you'll find a larger percentage of people there that would go out of their way to help, but I know this isn't always true. What is true is that the friends you make there and the help you find is likely to last past graduation, whereas what you get from those you know from school might end there.If your therapist thinks you should be a nanny then she must have a pretty high opinion of you.

There's an attorney in my area (WA state) who was adopted at either 21 or 24. Jeffw is one smart fellow, he's right about building a relationship with a family somehow or another. Your counselor had one suggestion, being a nanny. I would suggest you look for *sort of* the same thing, but different. My worry with the "nanny" title is that you might find people who wanted a type of servant. You might not -- but you might! May I suggest looking for someone who wants a "mother's helper". The implication is that there's a lot of respect for the child (usually 12-18) who's coming into the home, usually when the mom is actually there, and helping her with: childcare, cleaning, misc. normal life tasks. Further suggest you look to people who are involved in the foster-to-adopt community, to find the "mother's helper" position. 1) Almost without exception they're kind people 2) They're already looking to expand their families 3) Even if you're never adopted, you might become a permanent part of their hearts, and vice versa. A very important kind of "adoption", resulting in a permanent connection, a home to come to, for you. I know one family, whose former foster son, about 24, lives in their home, has for years. He has a job, just loves being with them. They have about 3 adopted children, usually 1-2 younger fosters. They do have a "mother's helper", a teen who comes over after school for a couple hours, most days of the week. (She has great adoptive parents.)It's absolutely true that there are a families who literally offer homes to homeless youths... then become that type of permanent family to them, if the youth are interested. There's a blog on the Internet of a family which specialized in taking older gay teen boys... boys whose families kicked them out. Perhaps there's not *tons* of such families, but they exist. The church angle is a good one. It may seem counterintuitive, so is volunteering in some aspect of agencies which serve foster teens or youth. There you'll meet ppl who have a heart for foster youth. Somehow, find a way to build relationships with good people... and like the attorney, perhaps some day one of them will want to be sure you're always with them, and make it legal.

Thank you both so much for posting.My friends' families aren't really open to the idea of me spending much time there, but it's still nice to get away for an afternoon here and there, and maybe someday I'll make new friends whom I will be able to spend more time with. I'll have to look up the "mother's helper" jobs in the area--that sounds absolutely perfect. :) I live in southern New Hampshire. I went to youth group at the church, but I'm 18 now, so I'm not allowed to go. :c

@skyblue.. Keep looking for all the support you can .. Check different churches. I know Methodists have a young aldult group.. from like 18 to 25/26 . Different ones may have a group for you and that can be very beneficial for you. Good luck.. I wish you the best.

Another option might be the independent living sections of a children's home or youth shelter. I know a 15 year old in a situation with some similarities, and we're working on getting the family to make placement in a children's home. This one has independent living apartments for young adults transitioning to full independence, and something like that might be a way for you and your sister to get into a more supportive environment now so you don't fail out of school. Along the way, you could build relationships with people who might adopt you. Personally, I think you need to focus on school right now though, not finding parents to adopt you.

I have a foster son living with us who is 16. His sister is 18 so was not eligible to come into care. What she decided to do is apply to Job Corp. It isn't a family but it is a place she can live and have support while she finishes high school and further education/training. Job Corp takes youth as young as 16 so your sister could probably apply as well if that is something she is looking for. Again, maybe not what you are looking for but I thought I would mention it.