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Today I am attending the Team Decision Meeting for Little D (has been with us almost 3 weeks). We have met biomom for 1 visit and Aunt has had two visits. Biomom is a mess and just doesn't seem interested in getting custody of her son. The aunt actually seems pretty normal and we actually kind of like her. However, I suspect they BOTH are into smoking marijuana. We saw some tattoos that give this notion away.
I think this Aunt we met is the most likely person they will place Little D with. Does anyone know if the agency drug tests family members before they place with them? This family has a history with CPS...a history that includes drug abuse.
Again, we like this aunt, but we just get that gut feeling she has an "extracarricular" lifestyle.
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I was surprised that we didn't need to take a drug test when we were in the process of getting licensed. I think fp should be tested.I am pretty sure that the background checks around here are not the extensive ones that we had to have as fp. I was surprised on how things went down with baby A in such a short time.
They probably will not test. Our kids just went back to a distant "relative" in which the entire family has a long drug history. This woman was never tested. She was even as bold as to smoke in the house on visits with the kids there and the baby has breathing problems and got sick. When I reported it the CW said it can't be true because she told us that she doesn't smoke anything anymore or drink and she was even willing to post a no smoking sign we gave her on her door. Smell the kids and you can tell what the person is smoking. CW says I can't tell what that is and even if I could you can't prove who it is from.
BoysParent
Does anyone know if the agency drug tests family members before they place with them?
BoysParent
Today I am attending the Team Decision Meeting for Little D (has been with us almost 3 weeks). We have met biomom for 1 visit and Aunt has had two visits. Biomom is a mess and just doesn't seem interested in getting custody of her son. The aunt actually seems pretty normal and we actually kind of like her. However, I suspect they BOTH are into smoking marijuana. We saw some tattoos that give this notion away.
I think this Aunt we met is the most likely person they will place Little D with. Does anyone know if the agency drug tests family members before they place with them? This family has a history with CPS...a history that includes drug abuse.
Again, we like this aunt, but we just get that gut feeling she has an "extracarricular" lifestyle.
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Seriously, just because family members do drugs does not automatically mean relative caregivers do drugs. We should not be tested unless all foster parents are tested. Of course, family members should not be considered if there is recent drug/alcohol problems. I would not think some of my family members would be appropriate as foster parents, but a background check would reveal that in their case.
As an aside, I live in California. I was taken aback recently when a young mother I know posted a pic of FB of her smoking weed. Someone admonished her saying think of your babies. She commented that CPS had already visited her and everything was hunky-dory because she had a medical marijuana card. :eek:
luvbeingamom
Temporary Mom: I could have written the same exact opinion on Marijuana. I do not use it, but should it be illegal? no. Its a joke here in CA. People get medical marijuana cards for hangnails here. Most of these folks just like to smoke weed. Its rediculous!
Quilter006
I was surprised that we didn't need to take a drug test when we were in the process of getting licensed. I think fp should be tested.
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Alys, I don't agree with mandatory drug testing of anybody, much less foster parents. I have a chemistry degree, and I know for a fact how often the drug tests come back with a false positive. They'll also come back positive if you've been around anybody who's smoking pot.I was a foster kid when I was a teenager...and my foster mother was a serious drunk. She passed out on the couch every single night after drinking two bottles of Cold Duck. She neglected her own kids, and I won't even go into how I was neglected. I don't know what the answer is...except I do wish that caseworkers would listen to kids who tell them about drunken or stoned FPs.Alcohol is legal in this country, and it causes more morbidity and mortality than all other drugs combined. I wonder if and when the morality police will start testing citizens for alcohol usage. Because from what I've witnessed, alcoholism does just as much emotional damage to children that illegal substances and prescription narcotics do.
luvbeingamom
As an aside, I live in California. I was taken aback recently when a young mother I know posted a pic of FB of her smoking weed. Someone admonished her saying think of your babies. She commented that CPS had already visited her and everything was hunky-dory because she had a medical marijuana card. :eek:
I actually think it would be a good idea for my father who has terminal lung cancer and is having trouble keeping up his weight to use medical marijuana. I think it would help him. I have a brother-in-law who has problems with the pressure in his eyes. Marijuana would do him good. Neither man will get a prescription because they are in recovery and are too nervous to. My father won't even use his Norco for his tremendous pain. I have considered baking him some brownies...I won't because I'm going to respect his wishes. My problem with the medical marijuana is all the people I know who have a card for frivolous reasons. We should legalize it, it is hypocritical how things are being done now. I know many young people who have cards. They are NOT ill.
I don't agree with drug testing all foster parents, just saying that if relative placements are tested, everyone should be tested. I guess I get a little sensitive reading peoples opinions on "relatives" "coming out of the woodwork" "going back to the same environment" etc, etc, etc. I am NOT doing this for the money. I am NOT an addict, I am NOT going to give the kids back to their parents. My home and family are very well respected in our community. Just because some relatives of foster kids are inappropriate to send the kids to does not mean automatically all of us are.
My first foster baby was a one month old who was removed from her kinship placement because of marijuana use. The CW said "We can't hold parents to one standard and then the relatives to another". Biomom had a drug habit. So, the baby was placed with me. I have no idea how the cw knew the kinship parents (who were friends of biomom) were using drugs. These kinship folks were allowed to visit after the baby was removed until biomom said she didn't want them around the baby (about 1 month later). From the way they talked, I think kinship parents thought they were getting baby back. And on baby's medical records, kinship mom listed herself as adoptive mother.
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RavenSong
Alcohol is legal in this country, and it causes more morbidity and mortality than all other drugs combined. I wonder if and when the morality police will start testing citizens for alcohol usage. Because from what I've witnessed, alcoholism does just as much emotional damage to children that illegal substances and prescription narcotics do.