TPR to Adoption

It is rare in Ca for a parent to be able to get a small child back after being in foster care for so long. Too little, too late. I'm not sure how your area is, but in mine, if the parents are not able to reunite with their small children by 12 months, they schedule the TPR trial. What they do between the goal change and TPR is not given too much weight. There would have to be a miraculous turn around. Since goal change was way back in March, I don't think you have much to worry about, especially due to the prior TPR. Nothing is an absolute in foster care for sure, but try not to worry. What can happen is she can appeal the TPR which will delay but not stop the adoption. It is extremely rare for a TPR to be overturned on appeal.

I believe that things will work entirely in your favor. I understand how hard it is for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

It is difficult being in this position...wanting so much for your relative to get better...but at the same time not wanting to loose your GD... I have a happy relative adoption outcome. My niece pulled her life together. She is doing well. I am so happy about that. When we were in the thick of things, I could not imagine this outcome. I thought either, she would get it together & get the kids back or she would implode completely. I hope and pray this is the outcome in your case.

I soo understand that fear. the "what if"'s kept me up until the day we finalized DD's BM went into rehab 4 times. If you break down the concerns, her chances are minute First - she needs to follow through on rehab. its one thing to complain to a relative, its another to make the commitment and follow through Then, if she goes to rehab, she needs to make it through the 30-90 days in house Then, she needs to be able to re-enter society and not relapse. THEN she needs to get a job, housing, and transportation She needs to prove she remains sober, which means random drug tests. THEN she needs to request and receive visitation Even after J's BM went to a 6 month rehab stint, they wouldn't just give J back. T (J's BM) had regular caseworker inspections. Since she did not get a job that lasted, there was no way CPS would return her J's BGM (my aunt) was her guardian during period. The sad part - even though everyone involved knew T would not be able to straighten out, it took over 5 years for TPR to occur. I think, when it comes to relative placement, the 15 month deadline can sometimes be glossed over Best of luck to you

This is in response to earlier post... TPR in August!!:cheer: I talked to CA adoption office today. Now the adoption stuff begins. I am very nerious. We had had our GD since she was 9mo she is now 25 mo. We do not have a lot of money and I have let a few medical bills go to collections. We have no problem supporting our daily living needs but we do not have a lot extra. I hope that this does not hinder us from adopting. I couldn't imagine not having my GD!!!!!! It is funny how each step of the process brings on new worries :eek:

wahoo!!! congratulations

Congratulations :cheer: In most states, relative adoption is done quickly without background checks, so your credit should not play a role in this at all. Private relative adoptions here (PA) cost very little and with the courts already being involved as they are, your costs should be minimal. Your case worker should be able to ease your mind about this, I would talk with her about the costs and procedure.