8 year old STBAD wants to be a grown up...

All she does is complain that she hates being told what to do, and wishes she was a grown up. We keep telling her that even grown ups get told what to do, but I guess that's not enough.Im guessing this is because for the last year she has lived in a nice foster home with a mom that loved her and expected her to behave appropriately for her age. She had been living at her grandmother and mothers home, both were drug users. She and her brother were pretty much on their own, except when Grandpa came by. No one expected anything out of her. We are on wonderful terms with her previous fostermom. She has told us that Lil Miss had an attitude and was sassy. She rolls her eyes or talks back every time you ask her to do something...anything. She tells us daily how she hates grown ups and parents. (Though she does tell us that she loves us too)So tonight for the umpteenth time, as we ask her to set the table for dinner, she says she wants to be an adult. She really just wants to drink soda and stay up late, those are her two biggest complaints. Though she hates being told what to do in general.Since its summertime and there is no school, we have a little experiment going on.We agreed that we will treat her like an adult. She can stay up late and drink soda:)We told her that if she wants to be treated like an adult, she had to have adult responsibilities too.Like helping out around the house, laundry, dishes, sweeping cleaning etc. (Usually getting her to help results in me being told she NO, or I dont want to, or a eye roll or attitude.) Also she needs to take a shower and brush her teeth without being told to. Because If an adult stinks or has bad breath, they wont have a job for long.She got all excited as she poured herself a rootbeer.The ground rules are: I still have input on anything that could cause her harm. She needs to help without being told. I dont expect her to do everything, just help out. And occasionally, adults ask each other to help with something, and we dont reply with an attitude or a roll of the eyes.So she folded a load of laundry, and shes loading a small load of dishes. Willingly. Happily.This kinda cracks me up. Shes doing way more than I normally ask her to do. In fact, I havent asked her to do anything regularly yet.I guess we shall see if she decides its worthwhile or not. She said that if she fails to act like an adult, than we can treat her like a child, and she wont complain about it anymore.Ill keep you posted as to the result.Tam