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My wife and I of 20+ years adopted our niece about 2 years ago now (she is age 12) her mother was killed by a drunk driver and her father was not interested. We knew and had spent a lot of time with her growing up from age 6 months on. The problem is both of us are grieving the loss of out niece and not seeing the positive of having a daughter, (she is pulling back very hard will show 0 emotion either positive or negative). She has been to counseling since several days after the event.
I am trying to not sound selfish here but I do want a daughter very badly and am struggling with this. She is overall a very good kid (good grades, good friends, ...) but I am afraid that she is not making that connection to us prior to the normal teen pull back and that scares me, as that is needed to pull them through the high school years.
Does anyone have any guidance on what to expect or am I just along for the ride and should offer what we can and expect nothing and enjoy what we get.
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