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Hello all,
We will be starting our homestudy for adoption through foster care very soon and I was just wondering what questions they ask you. Also, when do they do joint and individual interviews? Is it before they do the homestudy or during homestudy? :confused:
I am getting really nervous, we don't have anything to hide, no financial issues or criminal records or anything like that but we don't have any children and I am more afraid that my answers will not be good enough or that my husband will contradict something I said and etc.
Thanks in advance!
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Relax. It's usually just a part of the home study. I think we had 3 visits the first time we adopted. Just sit down with a pot of coffee and chat. They have a form and they just ask the questions from the form. They do ask some pretty invasive questions.......but try to keep a sense of humor about it. Remember, the sw doing the interview is human too. Just try to be as open and honest as you can. One of our sw was far more fundamentally Christian than we were and we were a little afraid that he wouldn't like us because we took our religion a bit more casual than he did. But that wasn't the case. He was very objective in his report and nonjudgemental. But he did interview everyone, including our daughter who was away at college. She had to come home for the interview, and our forgien exchange student from Japan.
I think my husband and I did give different answers about certain things, but it wasn't a big deal. As long as its not fundamentally different like him saying he doesn't want kids and you want 5 or more.
They did ask about our sex life.....but it wasn't really uncomfortable. The people doing the interviews have lots of experience so don't worry.
Good luck,
Saj
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Saj, Thank you so much! It really helps to know that they aren't trying to find something wrong with us. I just like to be as prepared as I can be but I know I can't prepare for everything. I like to hear about what other people went through, since it is just my husband and I, will they call some of our family members and friends or will they only call the people on our reference sheet?
We are prepared to talk about our marriage, sex life, childhood and all that.
Thanks again :-)
Ours was so easy compared to what I had in my head that it was going to be. We did not have any sex questions. They did ask us each separate questions but we were in the same room. They are not looking to disqualify people. They are looking for people they can get approved. When she left hubby said "That was it"