Another baby needs a family

I know exactly how you feel. Three of our five kids are related (distantly) to me...with another due in January :popcorn: though she is at risk for removal due to the parents' mental health issues, not drugs thank goodness. There is another family member that has a sibling group of 3, several grandparents raising little ones. I have over 100 first cousins in the county (and most of them are grandparents now) so we are a pretty big family but still thats just too many people affected by heroin. I wish there was an easy answer but you have to do what is right for your family. The sad fact is that we cant save them all, no matter how much we may wish that we could. My five and your Happy Baby are safe tonight, thats what I try to focus on.

BTDT, too. It's difficult all the way around, for everyone involved.

I know how you feel! Little loves bio mom is 32 weeks pregnant with baby #2. CPS is already involved so hopefully the new baby gets put of that situation soon after birth. Bio moms drug of choice is meth. Months ago when bio moms boyfriend beat her up real bad and she left him for a few weeks, she asked us to adopt new baby too. But since then we have gotten in an arguement because she showed up intoxicated wanting to see little love for cmas. Long story short, we had to call the cops before she would leave. On her way off though. She let me know we will not get the new baby now. Hopefully CPS will place new baby with us without bio moms approval. I know we shouldn't keep accepting bio moms kiddos, some family members have even went as far as saying that if we take new baby in, we are enabling bio mom . I guess in a way we would be, but enabling or not, I couldn't justify not caring for my daughters sibling. The baby doesn't deserve a life of Hell, just like little love didn't. And we are more than willing and capable of taking in new baby. I know that if bio mom keeps having kids she can't raise, we will eventually have to say no but we will get to that when we get there. I wish I could take them all. Can't save the world I guess :(

I'm not uderstanding this. Your caring for child, instead of letting them go into fostercare. The chances are they give her all these chances, but she still may screw up, not get them. They might stay in one or more foster homes, if they can't put up with the mother even move home. How would that be helping the children? This is supposed to be for the child, not the mother.

When I was carring for twins, it was doable. When they had a newborn brother I managed. She might be able to help you with diapers, feed bottles and keep him entertained.Also you can buy gates to help both stay where u are. Not that I'm trying to talk u into anything.

Now I know why your screen name is CRAZYWOMAN, haha!!!

I understand what they are saying too but it is hard to draw a line in the sand when you are talking about babies & children. The little girl I am referring to in this post is the child of a different family member, not HB's biomom. DH said we will never take anymore of HB's biomom's children but I agree that if another baby comes along that they all deserve to be together (and safe). Biomom is almost 35 years old so I am hoping we are at the end of her fertility rope. Happy Baby doesn't get to live with his half sister, KK (she was adopted by bio Gma and Gma just can't raise another child). KK & Happy Baby get to see each all the time but just don't live in the same house. CRAZYWOMAN: Once we get licensed maybe I can convince DH to do straight foster for the little girl until an adoptive home is found....then again I probably wouldn't be able to let her go by then

Before her 3th child was 2 she had another child, that I took care of. The mom has all kinds of mental problems. She got fixed and can't have more, but wanted another one a few years ago. Y ou can't imagine the thing she's told me, or ask me. I hope every thing works out with the little girl.