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First, my heart goes out to all those in process, and especially for those children who may never have a family. We have been lucky enough to prevail twice over so many obstacles put in our way by the "process". But even now, our girls wil also suffer. I don't see any way for our girls to ever visit their birth country....far too risky that they would be detained, a sad day for our girls...
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Shark01
First, my heart goes out to all those in process, and especially for those children who may never have a family.
We have been lucky enough to prevail twice over so many obstacles put in our way by the "process". But even now, our girls wil also suffer.
I don't see any way for our girls to ever visit their birth country....far too risky that they would be detained, a sad day for our girls...
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Guys, be thankful that your child is home. No need to find some way to make the ban about those of us who have prevailed in this process. Use this time to grieve for those who have met their children and now may never be reunited with them. This really isn't the time to be poormouthing about our children not being able to visit the country that they so desperately needed to be freed from.
incognito123
Guys, be thankful that your child is home. No need to find some way to make the ban about those of us who have prevailed in this process. Use this time to grieve for those who have met their children and now may never be reunited with them. This really isn't the time to be poormouthing about our children not being able to visit the country that they so desperately needed to be freed from.
I am definitely grieving because I probably won't get to take my daughter back to her birth country for a much needed visit. We can all share our thoughts/feelings here without being chastised. Lets not turn this wonderful forum into a FRUA forum. This ban affects all Russian adoptive parents, no matter what our individual situations are.
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I don't think there's a need to panic. This new law is in response to the Magnitsky law that Obama signed banning from entering the US certain individuals he/they considers guilty in the death of Mr. Magnitsky and others they consider criminals against democracy. The Russian law is an exact response to ban all individuals their government considers guilty in ANY crime against ANY Russian citizens, including adoptive parents, judges who acquitted murderers, etc. At least that's my understanding.
Believe it or not, the adoption issue is a small part of the law, just very sensitive. So, it's up to each country to decide who they consider a criminal, but, personally, I don't think anyone who has not done anything wrong against their child (i.e. been taken to court for abuse, or failed to work with the Russian adoption officers through their agency post adoption, or otherwise negatively reported, etc.) has to worry visiting birth country. Just my 2c.
I'm. Sorry you were attacked for expressing a genuine feeling that you are not the only one to have. Let's be supportive of everyone. I too fear that my girls will never get to see their amazing birth country that is a huge part of our every day lives. Russia is where they started and have a deep appreciation for the country and its people. The way things are going, I do fear that they close their borders to us all in the future. Some political figures may think we don't appreciate our kids birth country, but we keep their culture alive as much as possible.I want my girls to be proud they are American AND Russian.
Semech
I don't think there's a need to panic. This new law is in response to the Magnitsky law that Obama signed banning from entering the US certain individuals he/they considers guilty in the death of Mr. Magnitsky and others they consider criminals against democracy. The Russian law is an exact response to ban all individuals their government considers guilty in ANY crime against ANY Russian citizens, including adoptive parents, judges who acquitted murderers, etc. At least that's my understanding.
Believe it or not, the adoption issue is a small part of the law, just very sensitive. So, it's up to each country to decide who they consider a criminal, but, personally, I don't think anyone who has not done anything wrong against their child (i.e. been taken to court for abuse, or failed to work with the Russian adoption officers through their agency post adoption, or otherwise negatively reported, etc.) has to worry visiting birth country. Just my 2c.
Caddo...I agree...these poor children were used as political pawns & it is disgusting! I too would not consider taking Mila back to Russia under these circumstances. It is a shame because it is a beautiful country, rich in history & most everyone we came accross was friendly & kind. Its the politicians I have an issue with right now & if they blatantly disreguard the 1 year waiting period to implement this ban (which I understand they will), then I'm wondering why bother with the post placement reports we're supposed to submit. I'm finding it hard to justify spending $700 a pop for those reports under these new curcumstances. I'm not saying we aren't going to do them, but if they are willing to stoop this low & punish the childern to make a political point, then it seems to me they could really care less about those reports because they clearly do NOT have the children's best interests at heart!
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Shark01
far too risky that they would be detained
Marieclaire
You daughters have American passports. By law, they are American citizens and I can't imagine why they would be detained while in Russia.