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We are in the process of trying to adopt my nephew my brothers son. As of now I have custody and will be switch over to foster care so we can adopt him. It has been long and very emontional. I still love my brother but my baby needs to come first. Both parents are in jail a waiting criminal sentencing. They have not seen baby since hospital after birth when the state put a no contact order in. He is almost 17 months. He was in foster care for 6 months because I lived out of state and took that long to complete ICPC. I love him with my whole heart and can't wait for the end of this process. I am hoping when time comes both the parent will sign rights over. I would like a semi open adoption that can come more open if possible without drama. Any advice is welcome to make this process easier.
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I wish I had advice to make this journey easier, but I don't. I too am adopting my brothers child and it is just a long road. This process just seems to take a long time from start to adoption finalization. Just breathe and love up your baby! As others will tell you, on open adoption only agree to the very minimum you are comfortable with, you can open up more as circumstances improve, and if they don't you are protected.
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We are in process of adopting our great nephew. A very closed adoption though!!! So we don't have to deal with the family drama :) We are doing visitations right now until the decision comes back from MCI. The foster family fought the recommendation but they were denied, again. So, as soon as it comes back from MCI we can get him home. I'm going crazy waiting
I too have BTDT with the ICPC (ours took 11 months) and adopting our daughter (hubbys niece). We adopted her when she was 7 and now she's 13 and doing great. All I can say is be strong...always do what is right for the child...and don't let bioparents manipulate you into doing anything you don't want to do or don't feel is in best interest of the child. Children deserve protection and stability and stand your ground if you need to. We have zero contact with biodad (he's serving 10 yr sentence for shooting at a police officer and violation of parole). In fact, I have never even met biodad. Biomom is on/off drugs and lives across country from us and not stable so we have no contact with her either. I don't even know where she is right now. She was stalking us thru Facebook and sending me nasty messages so I blocked her. It's hard but you have to stand your ground. Good luck!
Thank you! I am only going to agree to what I am comfortable with and know what I can follow through with. I want everything finalized. I have always been close to my brother even if I haven't approved of his actions. He makes the dumbest choices. I have tried helping him to change and he didn't. So he will totally deal with consequences. I can't fully turn my back on him but I will do what I need to protect my baby. I'm not close to biomom but try my best to do what is right by her.
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