has anyone ever been through this,,,what is your advice??we've had baby girl for 10 months now. ICPC placement for grandparents from both states have been approved, they told me to expect her to be placed at court date. what are the chances that this is true. We wrote the judge a letter asking for adoption, is there a chance it could be considered?? could this be done the day of court?? :eyebrows: just want to make sure so we are preparing to let go, just venting for insite
Why would you want to adopt when this child clearly has family that WANTS and is CAPABLE of caring for her? That seems really selfish to me. You become a foster parent to help a child in need, TEMPORARILY until they can be reunified with their parents or placed with a relative. You did your job, now let her go. It’s not about you, it’s about her.
The ICPC process takes a while, so clearly the bio grand parents have been working with the agency for some time in order to get this baby girl out of foster care. She doesn’t have just one set of blood relatives willing and able to care for her, she has TWO. That is an ideal situation and a win! You should be celebrating and happy.
I’m not saying you can’t be sad, too and, of course, grieve the sense of loss, but unless you were never supportive of RU and became a foster parenting simply to adopt (something I seriously frown upon), then you should have known this was a possibility and the best outcome for that baby girl.
I’m happy for her ߘ