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My daughter has been in foster care since birth due to positive drug test. I did everything they asked me to do. She was soposed to be originaly returened to me in june 2012. I was getting visitation with her thewhole time. The social worker quit and we had to start all over again. It dosent seem fair. I realize she has a bond with foster parents and agree to let them have visitation but they still try to keep her.I get her 2 overnights a week for the past year n a half and it seems to be going no where. We are doing are second attachment study in a few days. She has 2 younger siblings 10 months and 2. she is 3. We are all very close. She knows im mommy but also calls foster parents mom and dad. it disturbs me and hurts myheart that mychild looks and someone elese and call them mommy. I just wish and pray that everything goes well and the attachment study proves that we have an attachment and there would be no emotional [problems with her being reunified. Im scared they will win. But i shall never give up. I love her.
What did the social worker quitting have to do with you starting over? Your case should have been picked up by another worker.
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yes, It should have.A new first time social worker hasmy case so its as she knows nothing. She just continues it or adds more to the never ending list for me to do. Like parenting class, counsling, alcohal drug class's. which i already done. Im jumping through their hoops and if they decide not to give me custody I will take it to supreme court.They added an extra year. Its tribal court so it has no deadline which is rediculous.
Dear I'm not sure what state your in but most have pretty similar structures. Parenting classes, drug tests etc are all a part of a typical parenting plan. If you have done all of them and you have certificates to prove it. You can ask the judge at the next hearing to consider moving them home.
Most states want them back home as soon as possible. Honestly its better for the kids, cheaper on the state and usually what happens. It's very very rare from my experience as a foster parent to have a child not returned home. My first DD was from foster care and they did everything for nearly 2 years to reunite her with mom. Mom was just unwilling to finish (or even start) her parenting plan. If you can prove you've complied then stand up and tell the judge, prove it and you'll more than likely get your kiddo back.
You need to be prepared at your next court date. If you've done all of these things don't tell the CW. Tell the judge. After all the CW will have to explain to the judge as to why they haven't been reunited.
Best of luck.
C -
Just keep doing everything they ask of you plus some and have it all ready to prove when you go to court. I wish you the best of luck. I'm sure this has been an awful experience for you but it also sounds like much good has come out of it with you being able to get yourself clean and provide a safe secure home for her and also for the other two you are parenting. It sounds like the biggest issue is her age and time in care. If she has lived with the foster family for these first 3 years of her life than surely she does have a bond with them as well and this will be a very difficult case for the judge to consider.:o :grouphug: