meeting the foster parents

Where are you meeting at? Are you doing a transition or just meeting them and transition happens later? We met our daughter's previous FP's for first time at their home with her CASA worker taking us. I kinda wish we hadn't met at their home because it was very uncomfortable for us, and we were not in a neutral place (if you understand what I mean?)

I hope that your meeting goes smoothly. I can imagine the stress you are feeling right now. Try to stay positive and hope for the best. Will keep my fingers crossed for you!!Hugs,

My husband and I experienced the opposite dilemma. there were multiple potential adoptive parents. We happened to bump into the other really likely family one day. Had they stopped and talked with us, we probably would not have our daughter now. If we had talked with them and discovered how charming they are, we would have backed out. Be charming!! :-) LOL!

Write down any questions you have about his schedule, likes and dislikes, etc. Ask the FP's what worked for them and what didn't. I see you as a "flash drive" in this situation. You need to load up on all the information you can but may not be able to process it all at that moment in time. TAKE NOTES so you can reference back. Ask about future communication with the current FP's. Especially if he has been in their care for a long time.

We met with the foster parents at the agency and the worker was there with us. Thank god cause I love her and was much more comfy with her there. The foster mother was very upset and all she kept saying was "he's my son". This. Was their first placement as foster parents and they are very young with 2 kids of their own. I did print out bunch of questions for them to answer and fill out. They wanted to meet with us to kind of fill us in a little more about his routines. Which I was very thankful for. I knew how upset she is but I can't help but think of how much easier it would be for him of she helped him transition more instead of sobbing and grabbing a hold of him everytime he leaves her to come to us for a visit. I was also told that they are possibly in process of a divorce which was another huge reason we were chosen. The FP also told us that they were done fostering, that it would have been different had he been going back to his mother(who is a habitual drug addiction who was in jail last week) but doesn't understand why we were chosen. He does amazing with us. Runs right to us, calls us mom and dad, and is very loving towards us. He always cries when he leaves us and is very excited to see us. We have him overnight tonight and he will be moving here next Wednesday. I will be glad when it's all over I did tell the FP we would send updates via email. And don't mind communicating periodically that way. But we are a couple hours away so we will not be doing visits (we also think it's best anyways). Thanks all for the advice. I will keep you posted

Well it sounds like it was stressful but I am excited for your that "moving" day is coming soon. Ours is tomorrow. You will be in our thoughts and so with the FP. I know they have the best intentions. Hope they can do better at helping him transition. The FP that have our kiddo's are doing well but they were not foster to adopt. Big Hugs,

Thanks for the hugs Michelle. I will be thinking of you lots also!! Hope your moving day tomorrow is a smooth one :)