Can't Decide Whether Or Not To Keep My Son

Wow, I can not imagine what you are going through right now, but it seems to me that if you could get a little bit of help, you might not want to place your child for adoption. Our church (in PA) is involved with an organization "Bridge of Hope", which this is what it does....it connects single mothers with families from churches who can help out when the mother needs help. And it is not connected to adoption at all. I am not sure if there is an organization like this in your area, but their website is [url=http://bridgeofhopeinc.org/]Bridge of Hope[/url]. Also, a good agency should be able to help if you decide to keep your child and put you in touch with other similar organizations who can help you. We are adoptive parents, and our agency says that they do that (but of course I was never in that situation, so I am not sure if this is what they really do, or if this is only what they tell us). Please pm me if you have any questions regarding our agency.

Please get yourself in to your local social services. Find out what resources there are in your area. In our small town in California, there is a resource center where families can get many services and referrel for services. Also-It seems to me that maybe you are trying to do too much. Work, school, and single parenting? Give yourself a break. You are not super woman. It's ok to take some time to sort everything out. If you are sure you want to place your child for adoption, I have heard of women voluntarily putting their child in foster care for a short period. You could find out what that feels like, before you go forward. It's a risk, though. I know many outstanding foster parents, and a couple I wouldn't trust to take care of my dog. My children's birthmother placed her children with me for a short time and then after a short reconciliation signed over her rights. I'm glad she had that time to go over if it was what she really wanted. I must say, though, that now that she is in a better place in her life she struggles with grief and loss. I don't think she thought that just a short few years later her life would be so different. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

whatever decision you make JUST KNOW THAT I WILL BE WILLING TO HELP AND IF YOU KNOW ANYONE ELSE WHO HAS MADE THEIR FINAL DECISION PLEASE CONTACT adoptioninquiries@gmail.com

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Oh my goodness dear I am so sorry to hear your struggles. I was a single mom with 3 children and often felt I wouldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I worked 3 jobs attended colleges classes and had just a small amount of quality time to be with my kid's. I remarried and had 2 more children, he left when the youngest was 1 and then I found myself with 5 children as a single mom on a limited income. I pushed through, got my MBA, got promoted and never gave up. I went on to be a President of a university at 38 years old and now 44 and remarried, retired and spending time with my last two kids until they graduate, who are 14 and 11. There is hope for the future and your focus just has to be day to day. You can do this! Just remember when times get tough, prayer is what will carry you through. God Bless you~