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Honestly, I feel I have no one to talk to. I need some encouragement, you guys. I need to hear from people who have been in similar situations, if it's possible. My husband and I have been together for two years, married for one. He has one son (5) who is the light of my life. I've been in his life since he was barely 3. Together, we are a normal family of three. Many people assume I'm DSS's bio mom. We started seeking a stepparent adoption last year, and finally filed for one in June of this year. The bio mom has been in and out of jail / prison the past 3+ years. She got back into using and selling meth and has found herself in jail for fraud, several counts and convictions of theft, absconding from parole, etc. Any time she gets out, we just wait until she's back in again. She was involved in a CINC case where all four of her children were taken from her. My DSS was immediately handed over to my husband who got sole custody of him, and it has remained that way since. The court ordered that bio mom was to have supervised parenting time through a venue the father selected. He has always selected a visitation organization in the area. She has never set up visits there, and we have the witness who works there that will testify in court to that fact. Bio mom has never paid any of the child support she was ordered to pay over two years ago. Her last visit with DSS was back in Dec. of 2016. In KS, the law is that if two years have passed with no contact and no child support, then the parental rights of that parent can be terminated. That looks fine on paper, but bio mom's argument is that my husband has prevented her from seeking parenting time, and that he wouldn't allow her to be a parent, which would be a good argument in court . . . if it were at all true. Our attorney is working very hard. After getting the adoption hearing set, bio mom had 30 days notice. She contested it the day before court. The case was set for a pretrial a month later. She never tried to contact DSS. she did not appear for the pretrial (currently incarcerated), and our trial was set another two months out. She still has not contacted DSS. She has regular contact with her daughters, but claims that my husband's PFS against her (which was dropped over a year ago) prevents her from contacting her son. She is a master manipulator and liar, and I know she will pull every trick she has when trying to smear my husband and me in court. Our case is being continued a third time, and we don't have a date yet. All the judge's in our county have been recused from our case, so we have a new judge, but we are still waiting on a new date. There is a lot more to this case involving bio mom's parents. They have dragged us to court in a grandparenting time case that has coincided with our adoption. It's a big mess, and I'm scared. Any encouragement? Any questions?
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