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Long story short, I am looking at maybe dissolving my 13-year-old sons' adoption. I adopted him from a dissolved adoption and there were definitely concerning behaviors that were not disclosed to me during our meetings. I hate to be another person to "give up" on him but he is assaultive to another child in our home, lies, manipulates to the point that CPS has shown up at our door. Everyone keeps telling me he needs a higher level of care but PRTC's won't take him due to his aggression so what am I supposed to do now. I doubt someone would be found but if anyone has any advice or insight, I would greatly appreciate it.
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This must be such a heart-wrenching position to be in. Have you been able to connect with a social worker or therapist specializing in adoption trauma or behavioral issues?
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Hi Nicole, How are things since posting?
I'm truly sorry to hear about the overwhelming challenges the adoptee in your care is facing. He's obviously very traumatized and hurt from being adopted. It’s incredibly hard when an adoption doesn’t turn out the way you had hoped, especially when you’ve already put so much heart and effort into trying to make it work. This is a situation no one can fully prepare for, especially with the gaps in support from agencies, social workers and attorneys who often don’t offer enough preparation or transparency for families in these circumstances. It's heartbreaking.
I know you want what’s best for your family, and rehoming a child is an agonizing decision that no one makes lightly. I write about these tough topics on my Substack and share resources and perspectives that might help navigate the emotions and challenges of adoption. You’re welcome to join; my hope is that it might offer you some support and guidance during this time. You can find it at The Real Adoptea Moxie on Substack.
Wishing you strength and clarity as you find the right path forward for everyone involved, especially the adoptee who has been traumatized by adoption at no fault of his own.
Last update on November 6, 7:24 pm by Pamela Karanova.