Born 10 June 1972, Newcastle

do you know your natural motters name ? my antie was adopted out and i'm trying to find her all i now is her birth name that my nan gave har was tracey-lee :confused: :confused:

hi amanda. Be careful in assuming too much. Or too little. My b-dad did not know of my existence until I phoned him when I was 34years old. He is married with a family. I spoke to him for about 20mins and we hung up after agreeing that if it was going to be too much strain on his family, he would not contact me again. somehow I feel that 20mins is what I'm going to have to accept. the hard part is, you have no idea of the outcome until you ask the question. I was born in 1962 in Brisbane and adopted out before I was 2 weeks old. My b-mum told no-one in her family, except for her brother, who was a minister. What better chance of keeping a secret, eh? Anyway.. around that time there were rumours of doctors delivering babies, announcing to the mother it was still-born then organising the child for adoption. What if my mother was one of those unfortunate women? What if she had her grieving period for me, and was over it.. Until I came knocking at her front door. Would she have a heart attack? When I DID finally meet my b-mum, she told me that she had been hurting badly for many years because she felt they would tell me at a young age about my adoption, which they didnt, and that she had been convinced that I didnt have any feelings for her, because I had not contacted her. In fact, I did not KNOW of her existence, but when I did, I tracked her down within a week or two. That was nigh on 7 years ago now and while it's more and more apparent to me that she's dumped me a second time, I guess my point is that with all your good intentions (and please, I mean no disrespect), adoption related reunions can yield unexpected results. My next youngest brother in my b-family (I'm the eldest of 6; 2 girls 4 boys) which all have the same, but different father than me, refuses to talk to me or even acknowledge my existence because my showing up means that he is no longer the 'head' of the family since their father left. I'm not gonna judge him, it's just a shame he feels that way. I'm sure the NSW Adoption Bureau can help you further with any questions or problems you have. I know the Qld version helped me. There are options available, like the govt can send a 'mediator' on your behalf. What you need to do is call the adoption people in the NSW govt and ask for 'identifying information'. If I remember correctly, I had to send a copy of my full b/c and $22. That gave me my birth mother's name. Then I could acquire a copy of my ORIGINAL b/c too. Can I begin to tell you the confusion when looking at two completely different birth certificates with different dates and they're both me? Anyway I dunno if this helped or not, but good luck :) and remember to maintain your dignity, THAT's the most important thing.

Hi, If you are still looking for info on your n/mum and were born in NSW all you need to do is phone DOC's Sydney on 02 8855-4900 and apply for your identifying adoption information. You have been legally allowed to obtain your mothers name once you turn 18, since 1991. It's a shame the State doesn't advertise this more. It may take a few weeks but one you have filled out the forms and obtain her name, you can then look her up in the Electoral Rolls, and apply for her married name if she has since married. The same applies to any mother who lost a child through adoption. Once her child turns 18 she can legally apply for his/her identifying info and search. You are entitled to your medical and hospital records and social work records if kept as well as any other document pertaining to your adoption or the adoption of your child. All states in Oz have open records. There are also search services which can help any Aussie out who may be living O/seas. Best of luck Di [url]http://www.angelfire.com/or/originsnsw[/url]