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My son was adopted by his great-grandparents in 91, I was 19 at the time and in a very bad relationship with a man who physically abused me and my son. My child was taked from me by the courts and place in foster care, I went through all the necessary programs to reunite me with my son. I was pregnant at the time with my second child, and my grandparents scared me and told me that they had talked to my case worker and that she had told them that the courts were going to take my child as soon as he was born and that the only way to keep them from taking my child was to let them adopt my son(the one that was in fostercare). They told me that if I would they would give him back to me and let me adopt him back. Well, was I stupid!! I was so scared at the time I didnt consult with my case worker or my attorney and let them adopt my son. My grandparents refused to give him back, and it has been 14 years now. They are in their late 70's and their health is failing. My son has always known that I am his mother and wants to live with me. Now I have been told when they die that my brother will be given guardianship. What can I do? My brother is in no postion to be raising him. I have a good job, loving husband and he has 3 younger siblings.
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In my opinion, you cannot "get your son back". Adoption is final, and after 14 years, again in my opinion, you don't have a prayer. If you ever did, it has been extinguished by the passage of time.
The boy's legal parents can make whatever arrangements they want to for his custody in the event of their deaths.
Again, in my opinion, you ought to leave this alone, and stop leading the boy on about "living with you".
Perhaps when he's an adult, you will all have a relationship, but for now, I think you should let it go, for everyone's sake.
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