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Anna - That sounds Crazy! If you haven't signed anything yet, then don't worry about it. Check out the laws in your state, but DO NOT feel like you must now adopt out your baby just because the agency says that you owe them money. That is their loss! The agency should not be pressuring and blackmailing you into giving up your baby. It sounds to me like they are more concerned with the loss of money from the prospective adoptive family, and now they are hoping to intimidate you into doing what they want you to do. The adoption agency takes a risk when they agree to support you, and unless you signed a contract saying that you would pay back the money if you change your mind, then legally they cannot force you to pay them back. That was their risk to take, and they lost.... that is nothing for you to feel bad about. If it makes you feel better, then go for a free consultation with a lawyer to make absolutely sure. But remember, the adoption agency is not going to want to go through the hassle and bad publicity of taking you to court over a few months rent. I think you should cut all ties with this agency, marry your boyfriend, have your baby, and do everything possible to provide a loving and stable home for yourself and your family! Make your marriage work and be the kind of mother to your child that he/she deserves. Renee

Anna - one more thing.... Even if you did sign something saying that you would pay back the money, in the event that you changed your mind about placing your child up for adoption, then for them to insist that it all be paid back within two weeks is considered extortion. If all else fails, you can contact the police, the better business bureau, and especially the local newspaper to get the word around that this is not an agency for pregnant women to deal with. That will really piss them off and get them to back off. I'm sorry that you are having to go through all this at this time, but know that God will give you strength and He will show you the way! Good Luck Renee

They are just trying to scare you!!! Don't believe them!!!! You do not have to give them the money right away,tell them to take you into collection!!! But you DO NOT have to give up the child if you don't want to-this is your child!!!!! Tell them to go to hell, and stop all contact with them!! And make sure that you don't leave the baby alone in the hospital!!!! And if you can, seek legal advice and get an attorney to get them off your back. Also, let the personnel at the hospital know the situation so that someone doesn't try to sneak off with your baby!! I wish you and your family the best,be strong with these evil people!!!!

I agree Anna, Go to Legal Aide. As far as I know only one state (OK) has it one the books that money needs to be paid back. They are trying to coerce you. Call me if you need back up. (use the toll free number) You have every right to parent your baby!!!!! -- Brenda Romanchik, Director Insight: Open Adoption Resources and Support 721 Hawthorne Royal Oak, MI 48067 248-543-0997 toll-free expectant parent/birthparent line 877-879-0669 [url]http://www.openadoptioninsight.org[/url]

I live in louisiana and a birthmother has 90 days AFTER birth in which she can change her mind. This agency is trying to keep from having negative numbers on their successful adoption data. If you want to keep your child and raise him/her, then do that. The agency will try everything to keep this process going, but legally, they don't have a leg to stand on. Talk to legal aid - a letter from the attorney to the agency should suffice in stopping the harrassment. Also - and the attorney should better be able to put this into legal perspective - but if you have signed no paperwork with this agency, you are under no obligation to repay maintenance payments made by the agency or prospective adoptive parents. These payments were made - evidently - with the full knowledge you had every legal right to change your mind. Good luck and congratulations.

Anna There is a great web site that helped me out with the same question. It is at [url]www.adoptionlaws.org.[/url] Go under the state statutes. :)

NO ONE can "make you" or force you to do this. I dont care what state you are in, until you sign the papers you are in control. And as far as the agency goes, no one can take your child just becuase you owe them money.