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Hi!
This is my first posting to this forum. I'm just starting out investigating what are the adoption options for single men. I've been doing a lot of web surfing and have contacted some local adoption agencies (San Francisco Bay Area). So far I have not been able to identify any foreign country that will allow single men at this time. I'm hesitant to try out domestic adoption, but this may be the only route. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Rob
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I to plan to adopt as a single parent.
However I found that domesticly is the best option for me.
The law's state that adoptive parents in the U.S
can be married, Or single, So if it states this they have to give you a chance.
I suggest contacting your local child services and talk with them to see if this may be an option for you.
Also there's several books on adopting as a single parent you may want to consider some of them.
I suggest researching as much as possible as you already seem to be doing.
Alot of your chances will depend on what choices you make.
So make sure to take plenty of time on them.
And remember your not only thinking about what is a head for you but also what is a head for the child you will adopt.
I hope this helps.
Thanks.
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If you're looking for a state adoption, your local DHS or DCFS or DYFS or whatever the acronym is in your state is generally a very reputable agency. I think that most states also have Catholic and Lutheran agencies that handle adoptions. If you're interested, you can take a look at the profiles of some waiting children on Adopt US Kids I've been staring at it myself for days now!Hope this helps,Dawn
Last update on November 9, 10:11 am by Sachin Gupta.
I don't know how you'll feel about this, but your state division of child and family service likely adopts to single men. The children may have been abandoned at birth or may have been removed from their parents due to neglect or abuse and thus many of the children have special needs, but if you are willing to consider this option, they will not hold your being a single male against you. It's also very affordable and the child may qualify for medical care etc. through the state even after adoption, and there arre other benefits, so you may want to look into this if you haven't already. I'm mostly familiar with Illinois, but I assume California has a similar program in place.
Well, I cant speak for the others around here.
But I to have looked at adopt us kids website
also I'm open to special needs. I have medical experance
due to I had alot of medical issues as a child and I feel
that will be a plus for me with special needs kids (Well if they have medical issues anyways)
I also agree Your state's child services is the best place to start.
I plan to go threw DCFS.
Thanks!
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Hi Guys,
I have been in the process of adopting since Fall of 2002. This has been quite an ordeal for me. I was approved in March 2003 for Vietnam, but as you know Vietnam is closed to all adoptions until the State Department renegotiates a Memorandum of Understanding on Adoption.
I changed to Ukraine in October. The morning my agency received my dossier they received an email from the Facilitators in Ukraine saying Ukrainian officials have discontinued single men adoptions as of Jan. 2004. I did not have time to be considered.
I have changed my course yet again to the domestic program. I have heard of so many guys being successful in the US, but I don't know if I can wait another year or not.
Any suggestions?
Phil
The agencies that I worked with was quite ok with the fact that I was single. I told them up front that I was single and if that was a concern I did not want to work with them.
Unfortunately, there probably is an underlying thought or questioning concerning why a single male would adopt but I stand firm in the belief that from my professional experience, one great parent is better than none.
I also think that the only country that will also single males to adopt females would be China.
Kevin
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I'm doing a adoption from another state and i will have 2 boys in June , as a first time parent im looking for all the support I can get from single dads , like what works for you and what doesnt
my sons are 9 and 11 biolgical brothers , they were going to give me just one but I couldnt seperate these kids after they had been placed together since they were young , so any advice on bounding would be great
Thanks Dennis,
Your help is grately appreciated.
I decided to try domestic adoption and it has worked great for me. My daughter will be born June 27th. I can't believe it!!
Anyway, I would like to adopt a boy from an orphanage in the future and your information will really help.
Thanks
Phil
This has been rather informative. I, too am a single guy that is looking into this. I don't intend to do this like right now, but I want to know everything I'm up against when I am ready. I have read things that pretty much tell me that these places make it impossible for a single man to adopt because they will question what a single man wants a kid for. I just want a family. That doesn't mean that I am gay or a pedophile. I am a big supporter of gay adoptions, BTW. I would much rather adopt domestically and I'd like a newborn. I just want a family like everyone else who does this. I honestly can't believe that after so many kids don't have father figures in their lives and someone wants to be that, he is seen as a pedophile.
Hi Prince,
I understand where you are coming from. I have a very happy ending to my story. My daughter was born 5 weeks ago and things are going great.
I have to say. Being SINGLE is going to be very difficult for you. I have a partner. We were chosen because of our relationship. I have spoke to several birthmoms during this journey and having 2 parents is VERY important to them.
Of course, the way the system works, I had to adopt as a single dad. The attorney you chose makes all the difference in the world because the system does not work in the favor of the adoptive parents.
Good luck with everything,
Phil
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Thanks for your insights, Phil. I really did want to do this domestically, but since most adoptions over here are open, and I have to talk to these birthmothers who in all likelihood will shoot me down on the spot for being single, maybe I should look at something international. Now, I don't want some 5 year-old. I do want a baby. The way I see it, if you're going to do it, do it right and to me having a baby just seems fitting. Now, I've heard various things about the process being more expensive here and that's why people adopt from other countries. It seems like the opposite is true to me.
It's been great reading your replies in reguard to adoption. I'm a single 45 year old man trying to adopt a son over the age of 5 and I find it to be a long and tedious process. At first I was quite naive because I thought within about a month I would have a son in foster care and in 6 months I could file for adoption. WRONG!!!! 3 years later I'm still surfing the web and making inquiries and sending homestudies to agencies in hopes that someone will take a look at me. I keep getting the lack of experience turn downs. After reading your replies, I feel encouraged. I'm not the only one frustrated by the long process involved in adoption. I read a reply in one of these forums...a guy said we have to market ourselves in order to be considered. If anyone has any ideas on what has worked for them as far as marketing themselves, please let me know how you did it. I can't help but feel I'm doing something wrong.ThanksDuane