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[FONT=times new roman]Times[/FONT] times teal Help?! My husband and I have been married for two years. In that two years, my ex-husband has had very little to do with my boys (now 8yrs. and 6 yrs. old). They spent 30 days with him and his family last summer and they wanted so bad to come home. My x- husband is verbaly and physically cruel to them. He says stuff like "If you don't stop crying I am going to put a dress on you and call you michelle instead of Michael" He hits them up side the head if they accidentally call him daddy K----. instead of Daddy. His mother told me this stuff because she was living with my x and his new wife last summer. She even told me that the Step-mom made the boys call her mommie because she didn't want to be disrespected. My boys do not want to visit him again they told me. They don't want to be hit on the head and they don't lik their stepmom. My husband is more involved with my kids and in fact has asked me and the boys how they would feel about him adopting them. My boys have said yes and told me a lot about why. Are they old enough? If so, where do we start? He and I are stationed in Ft. Carson Colorado and the biological father is in California. A jag officer said we would have to start there in California, why? How? Any reccomendations?
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The biological father of your sons will have to relinquish custody before your new husband can adopt them. Either that, or you will have to go to court and prove him unfit, so that his rights will be legally terminated. If the biological father fights this, it will be very difficult. Despite the cruelty you've described, it's hard to get the court to terminate parental rights. I wish you luck. It sounds like your boys would be better off without this man in their lives. You might try to get an attorney through legal aid... if bio-dad fights this, it could drag on and on and legal fees could get expensive. Do you think it would be possible to convince him to voluntarily relinquish his claim to the boys? If he's not a big part of their lives anyway, maybe you can work something out with him. If not, get a consultation with an attorney and see what can be done legally. I wish you the best of luck! Sincerely, Sharon
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I thank you for your reply. I am not sure how to get him to relinquish custody. Is there a form to get? Where and how do I go about doing this? I don't have his address anyway and I only have a cell number to contact him by and his mother? I was under the impression that I would have to put an announcement in a paper for him to reply to and if he does not he forfeits his rights? Is this true? I know I need to contact an attorney, but I am not sure about this relinquishing his rights? Could you explain about this? Thank You again, :confused:
I'm not sure about how to get him to relinquish (I'm not one of the legal experts on this board, just a concerned mom, lol). I hadn't realized that you weren't in contact with him at all right now. I've heard about putting an announcement in the paper... mostly in cases of a person seeking a divorce on the grounds of abandonment. I'm not sure if this works for custody situations as well. Hopefully one of the legal experts on this board can give you some advice on that. Again, I wish you the best of luck. _Sharon