I love birth mother’s day! It is an honor to spend a day celebrating the warrior woman who made selfless choices to bring my son and I together. Our celebration starts earlier in the month as we look as a family for a gift we can send to our birth mother. I love that each year the option for adoption gifts grow and grow. Etsy is our favorite place to shop. We also special order a “happy Birth Mother’s Day” card. We love writing in the card, drawing a picture, and sending our gift off with love.
When birth mother’s day arrives we always reach out, thank her for her sacrifice, express our love to her and wish our son’s birth mother a happy day. Then I work hard that day to teach my son more about her and also to help him learn about his culture. We teach him some words in her native language. We eat traditional food. We spend the day saying “I love you” in Albanian. We honor her by helping him know where he came from and how much he was loved.
At the end of the day I like to show my son all the things his birth mother has gifted to him. I show him the pictures of her. I read him the book and cards she has sent over the years. I take him in my arms and tell him his birth story. I tell him how much he was loved before we loved him. And then I tuck him into bed and I tell him like I do every night, “I love you. Te dua.”
And inevitably I find myself reaching out again to her and thanking her once more for helping me become a mother. I tell her about the tears I shed over infertility, I tell her what waiting for placement was like. I tell her about the moment we were matched with our son. I tell her about the sacred moment I had when I first held her son. I thank her for choosing us. And we both cry a little and in this instant we remember all of the miracles that have brought us into each other’s lives. And we thank each other for this incredible journey we are doing together. Like I said, I love Birth Mother’s Day.
How do you celebrate Birth Mother’s Day? Tell us in the comments!